One Day

To my son for Christmas, with love and tears x

2011-12-31T02:00:00.000Z

Every day i think of you, the pain just doesn't fade,
I wanted you home but the decision had been made,
You were twelve when they took you,
You were kidnapped by the States.
A part of me has gone with you, it can never be replaced,
If I saw you tomorrow would I even know your face?

At some point in the future you will know the truth,
Of how we fought for you throughout your youth
The tears we have shed, the ups and downs
They made a mistake and you paid the price
I have a few things left of you, kept in my heart
You were torn from your family we shouldn't be apart

Very Brief Update....

2011-10-01T00:03:00.000+01:00

There is a lot going on behind the scenes, I will one day be listened to. I thought I would like to share with you quotes from each of my last two Appeal Court hearings and then ask a question that perhaps you could help answer.....

Quote one "He (my husband) is an innocent man"

Quote two "It has never been implied that you have done anything wrong" (referring to me)

These two quotes are from Appeal Court Judge's, one as recently as last week.

Now the question is "Why did Social Services kidnap my sons?"

I know it has been some time.....

2011-04-30T02:07:00.000+01:00

For those of you who may follow this blog who may have hoped I have faded into the background and gone away, I haven't. I am still there and fighting for justice, which will be mine one day, whether it takes just a few months or years makes no difference to me as I have all the time in the world. For those who have wronged me, their day will come as karma does have a funny way of catching up with people.

At present I have two legal actions ongoing, I have a third that I am in the process of compiling, then I anticipate at least another two. I have neglected updating my blog, but in some ways have had little to say as I don't want to give anyone an unfair advantage! I will always be available for anyone who is experiencing any problems with Social Services and can be contacted through the comments section, putting not for publication if you wish your message to be private and confidential. Earlier I was looking through such messages that I have received since the beginning of this blog and you would be shocked by some of the content.

On Mother's day the 3rd April 2011, it was the 3rd Anniversary of the kidnapping of my children. Still here, with not one person accountable for their illegal family destroying actions.

Here is the perfect definition of a Jersey Social Worker:

Vigilante

(n). A Vigilantee is an unauthorized person who conduct a trial on the accused persons with or without collecting evidences or ascertaining the truth and confer punishment to the accused considering the depth of crime involved. A Vigilantee is not legally authorized person to do such trials and order punishments. They get the authority from social status, knowledge, wealth, reputation, physical power etc.

A New Website....

2010-11-07T00:31:00.000Z

I would like to introduce a new website and also congratulate its' creator, a person with courage and determination who wants to see change and help bring in the changes.

Copied from the main page:

"This website has been set up with the intention of assisting those families and individuals who have been abused, deceived and harmed by the operation of the Social Services, and particularly the Children's Service, in the island of Jersey. From what I have read, seen and heard, the methods used by the States of Jersey Children's Service ape those used in mainland Britain with the same disastrous consequences.

One problem that each family or individual who is subjected to abuse by the Children's Service has is that they have no idea just how common this process is and this makes it far easier for the States to ignore each injustice in turn. I am asking for a show of hands and I hope that this will lead to a formation of a local group or formal association.

Current areas of concern:
Where the staff of any of the services have acted beyond the boundaries of the law.
Where the staff have not kept to their own published procedures.
Where the staff have lied.
Where the staff have operated with bias.
Where the staff have acted with incompetence."

http://www.anti-antisocialservices.co.uk/

Unite and Fight!

2010-07-29T01:02:00.000+01:00

I know I have not posted for quite some time but I am still here, planning my next move in what has now become my game of chess. The Privy Council has turned down permission to appeal - so I have come up with one more path of redress before the ECHR. I will be a bit sneaky and keep my plan to myself but be assured I will enjoy it! Do I expect to win? Well for now no, but I will eventually, for every knockback it just makes my case stronger.

I know there are many others who have suffered at the hands of the Jersey SS. Now is the time to take action. In England there is a class action being brought before the ECHR, which is very interesting for us to follow. Please if you know of anyone or have yourself been a victim of the procedures (or in fact their inability to follow procedure) and heartlessness of the SS in Jersey please contact me via the comments section. If you put 'not for publication' I will not publish your details and will contact you privately. I will keep all correspondence confidential.

Unite and fight against the injustices of the family court system!

Jersey's Childrens Services Definition of Flourishing......

2010-04-08T00:39:00.000+01:00

Now for months I have been told how my son is flourishing and doing ever so well as he is not in our care anymore. Below I reproduce a section from a letter I received yesterday:

"Dear Mrs .........

I am writing to advise you that I have recently received information that on the 22nd March 2010, (name removed) was involved in a fight at school with another young person. The police have been involved and (name removed) was Charged on the 29th March with Grave and Criminal Assault and is due to appear in Youth Court. (Date to be advised)

I would also like to inform you that due to (name removed)'s behaviour and recent suspensions from (school removed), he is due to transition to d'Hautree House School on 21st April. If (name removed) is able to work hard and improve his behaviour within school, this will allow him the opportunity to work towards attending a mainstream school in the future."

As you see by the above extract he really is flourishing, fantastic job you must get the award of Child Carer's of the Year.

Jersey's children are safer not being under the care of Social Services.

2 Years Ago Today

2010-04-03T22:27:00.000+01:00

It was two years ago today that the Social Sevices intervened in our lives.

2 years which have seen the destruction of the relationships of brothers and sisters, of a family.

I hope they can sleep at night.

A Brief Recap of Our Last Two Years.....

2010-03-29T22:22:00.002+01:00

All that I post below is facts, all of which I have the evidence for.... I may omit some facts as there are just too many for a brief recap!

3rd April 2008 onwards....

My 12 year old son said he had been kicked in the head by my husband.

School counselor wrote on the referral form that we had had a child protection referral before - we had not - it was the people who they placed my son with.

My husband was arrested for allegation of kicking a child in head.

Sometime before 10am the following day, police and social workers knew this to be a false allegation.

Two children were removed from my care with no emergency protection order - therefore the social services acted illegally.

They did not return my children in the legally stipulated time of 72 hours in the absence of a Court Order.

Instead of admitting there was a false allegation they mounted a campaign to try to get my husband plead guilty to an assault that did not happen.

My husband pleaded not guilty despite often being told you will be found guilty by his defence lawyer.

He was found guilty.

The policeman who transcribed my husband's interview got it wrong - a fact so wrong that it overturned his conviction.

They have imposed a care order on the grounds of the conviction.

I appealed the care order, however it now seems that they plucked my son out of thin air and popped a care order on him as a result of no incident taking place. An interesting scenario this is and one that is worth a further challenge.

Now as these years are ticking by they have sent my son's behaviour downhill, that is saying it politely, they have not acted in his best interests - just trying desparately to cover up their mistakes.

Last week after the hearing I was approached by Miss Purgery who at a previous hearing told the Court we were all moving to Australia (perhaps wishful thinking in her behalf) and said we must work together to get him home - after telling the court I was putting him at risk of emotional harm? I said I will work with you 100% once you acknowledge that no assault took place. She said we can't do that - I said well I know that otherwise you would have to admit you are wrong.

Their plan is obvious to most earthworms even - they want to slip him back home drop the care order and make it appear like it is all rosy in the garden again, and I will go away.

Today as it stands they are responsible for the destruction of another child's life rather than be held accountable for their devastating mistakes, lack of communication, incompetence and outright lies.

In the words of my 3 year old - 'Big Girls Never Give Up'

2010-03-24T00:29:00.002Z

Each stage we get a little closer to getting the truth out in the open.

Still the care order remains, but now by a thread instead of a rope. I intend to cut that thread one day. The appeal was good in lots of ways that I can't explain at this moment in time.

Without giving too much away the reason for the care order still standing is that he MAY suffer emotional harm - just like I MAY get run over by a bus (probably driven by an out of work social worker).

As big girls never give up, I am preparing my next appeal on this decision which will go to the Privy Council in London. I think it was their last ditched attempt to shut me up. The lawyer behind me with a fondness for yellow shoes, said at the end 'well that's finished', as she shut her files. Well actually no it isn't.

As the saying goes it isn't over till the fat lady sings - well I'm not even humming yet.

Very Appealing!

2010-03-21T01:42:00.002Z

This will be a short post almost two years to the day Social Services kidnapped my son. Anyone who has followed this blog will know our story, and will know we appealed the conviction against my husband and won. Next week will bring my appeal against the care order imposed on my son, which is now as a result of a lawful punishment for my son's behaviour. Imagine having a child taken from you for grounding them and being told they are at risk of significant harm.

These two years have seen the destruction of my child's education, after numerous suspensions he has now been expelled. They have not only destroyed our family but my son who they are supposed to protect. Shame on them. They have my utter disrespect. Any child in their care is at risk from the incompetence and negligence of these so-called professionals.

If I win, what have I won? I have been told that 'if you get him back he's not the child you once knew' (from a professional referring to his downward spiraling behaviour). There's a old saying that the social services should have taken note of two years ago 'Mother knows best'. No-one knows my son like I do, they should have listened to me.

If You Tolerate This Your Children Could Be Next

2010-01-23T23:11:00.002Z

We are the Social Services
We will screw up your kids alright
We've got to keep them in the system
We need them there for life.

We don't want happy families
What we want is for you to fight
Not us you see, amongst yourselves
So our case is watertight.

It's not just us you keep in a job
Just think about all the services
That without your kids would collapse
From child psychologists to prison services.

So if you're in a quandry
You just don't know what to do
Don't approach the Social Services
Or your kids will soon go too.

We may moan about our workload
But really it is a front
We have targets to reach
So excuse us if we're blunt.

Few of us care about our job
Or the kids that are involved
But since the beginning of abortions
This forced adoption racket evolved.

We have all these childless couples
That we're sure are better than you
So we'll pass your kids on to them
Then go on to family number two.........

Written by: One Day!

Does the JEP print all letters to the editor?

2010-01-06T22:17:00.002Z

This is a letter that has been forwarded to me, I have removed the sender's name and address although I have it and had they printed this letter, it would have also been printed. Looks like the answer to my question is no they do not! When the letter below did not appear in the JEP, the author phoned to ask why it had not been printed. The answer was along the lines of 'we have more newsworthy stories'.

22^nd November 2009

The Editor

Jersey Evening Post

Guiton House

Five Oaks

St. Saviour

JE4 8XQ

Dear Sir

The recent headlines

Boy in Care after beating

The Report went on to state a beating by his step father in April 2008.

Perhaps a further report mentioning that the conviction has since been quashed regarding his clipping the boy around the ear – who knows an apology by the JEP for the disgraceful headline and reporting would not go a miss.

Also the authorities concerned could learn from this they could have used more common sense and understanding where a verbal caution was sufficient instead of wasting tax payer’s money to bring this matter to court.

Yours faithfully

One Year Ago Today

2009-11-25T22:42:00.002Z

One year ago today the 25th November 2008, I started this blog to bring issues such as we have been through out in to the open. I felt I had no alternative, I was not being listened to whatever avenue I chose to persue. Basically all State's employees told me if I had a problem, to have it addressed legally. This piece of advice was no doubt given as we did not have the funds to pay a proper advocate and we would have to turn to legal aid, where for the sake of their easy paycheques they do no work on your behalf and you pay in reality for them to aid your opposition.

Well actually I now would like to thank them for that advice, as we spent since July preparing my husbands criminal appeal against sentence and conviction on the main ground of the error in the transripts of my husband's interview - I wrote a post about this in August.

I thought for the blog's anniversary I would have a good news theme........

The appeal against my husband's conviction and sentence was granted and we won the case and the conviction has been quashed.

So here's a interesting point for discussion - they kidnapped my son for nothing, they applied for the care order solely because of the conviction - there's no conviction - perhaps they would like to apply to discharge the care order..... Slowly but with determination we are proving we are right.

It's like playing a part in a film....

2009-11-03T01:33:00.001Z

Mrs Hardy: Wheres the clock you bought?

Stan: I don’t know. Ollie said he was gonna keep it in the dark and if I kept my mouth shut no one would be any the wiser ;

(Thicker Than Water)

I think that events are taking a turn into the realms of comedy now, you wait 18 months and slowly but surely you get the proof you need.

A brief round up of the crimes committed against me by Social Services, Children's Services and their Legal Misrepresentatives:

Kidnapping - forcibly keeping my children away from me with NO Court Order.
Assaulting one of my children by dragging him from me, another by snatching a phone out of her hands, making her cry.
Perjury
Forging a letter from my son
Perverting the course of Justice
Defamation of character
An advocate pretending to represent me to obtain 'personal information' that she was not entitled to have.
Publishing of my husbands name in JEP- illegal
Breach of PPCE law - 2 counts
Police unlawfully changing evidence

Failure to follow procedures and numerous other events to date.

Oh and to remind you of my most heinous crime in this:

NOT AGREEING WITH SOCIAL SERVICES OTHERWISE I COULD HAVE MY SON BACK!

(Oh and add black mail to that list)

Approach Social Services With Extreme Caution

2009-10-18T21:32:00.004+01:00

As a result of the way we have been treated I applied for access to records held by social services. I picked these up a few days ago, and have only looked at a couple of pages from the files so far. However I feel there is an important issue that people should be aware of.

Around 6 years ago, we contacted Social Services as my son who at the time was receiving speech therapy, and was not able to communicate fully with us about a large burn he had received on his wrist whilst in the care of another person. The relationship was such that we could not approach him directly to ask (he had only just started being allowed unsupervised visits by the Court after around a year of them) so we thought we would get in touch with 'professional people?' who could help investigate for us.

Well I was disgusted by what I read - there was a conversation recorded between a Social Worker where he told the Head Teacher of his primary school to listen out for what my son was saying about us - in other words - investigating us!!! We did not know anything about this until the other day, these records are something you have no control over and they seem to have a license to write whatever they want never letting the truth get in the way of a good story....

This is just a warning to those of you who may be thinking of approaching Social Services for help - do so with extreme caution - it could be turned onto you.

Gone for good

2009-09-13T23:05:00.002+01:00

Well one full care order imposed.

This was imposed as a result of the conviction against my husband. The conviction that was attained by one friendly DC policeman who managed to completely re-write his own version of events for a do not disclose case summary and also change what my husband told him in his interview in the transcripts - obviously he liked his own version better. One thing I wonder do they get a bonus for each conviction?

With a bit of a battle and a long court case (well for me it was), I managed to get most of the other accusations against us quashed - apart from my most heinous crime to date in this mess - not agreeing with social services or working with them - since November last year.

I fail to see why I should work with people who refuse to acknowledge the truth of the situation. So in the words of a not missed social worker 'bring it all on' - I accept your challange and I will.

So it looks like a few more court appearances for social services et al., I will not give up and I may have lost a battle but they have not won the war.

'Where did you slap him?'

2009-08-08T00:51:00.002+01:00

In April last year this was the question that was put to my husband:

'Where did you slap him?'

Now, would you like to hear the actual answer my husband gave in the taped interview, or would you like to hear the version that was transcribed by this policeman? What is even more interesting is that the version that was transcribed by the policeman, was a material fact mentioned several times by the judge when she found him guilty in September 2008.

Compare the below answers:

My husband: 'mainly his elbows'

Mr. Policeman: 'I moved his elbows'

You would be forgiven if you did not immediately spot the importance - we didn't until recently.

Mind you we did rather stupidly assume the following:

A policeman would not make errors. I'm not talking just this one error, there are in fact 4 in total.
The prosecution would check the evidence they offer to the Court.
Your defence lawyer would check the case against you and even find the time to listen to your taped interview and check it with the transcripts, seeing as we paid her £1200.00 out of fees of £24,000.00 (yes legal aid).

You see the version of Mr Incompetent Policeman, was just what they needed to find my husband guilty of 'child abuse' as it indicated a deliberate attempt to get to his head and deliver several blows to his head - as the judge stated. When all my husband had said was 'mainly his elbows'. Doesn't really have the same mental imagery does it?

Of course on the face of it is unlikely that that any policeman, prosecutor and defence lawyer would collaborate together to simply ‘invent’ a scenario which would ensure that my husband was found guilty, to cover up the gross incompetence of 'come in no. 1 you're sacked' when she removed two of my children from my care on a false allegation (recently admitted in court). Some scenario involving confusion on their part or the mixing up of notes from two separate cases might explain matters..........

NSPCC in Jersey

2009-07-25T23:11:00.003+01:00

A short while ago the Jersey Evening Post reported about the high cost to the Island of bringing over Guardian's from the NSPCC in the UK. It reported that there was one case. There are currently 3 cases that I know of using the NSPCC. They are bringing over these people to act as Guardian Ad Litems. This is a term used for the representation of a child in Court Proceedings by a Guardian who then also has to have local council. They are there supposedly employed to act on the behalf of the child in their best interests. Their role is ended on the conclusion of proceedings. These Guardian Ad Litems are not to be confused with the role of a Guardian who has care and control of a child.

One question is why are we not using local staff to fulfill this position, we have social workers here, and that is the profession of these guardians. Why are we importing these people at great cost to the tax payer. I can total approximately 20 visits I know of, just how much does a visit cost?

I also want to know why we are using these Guardians who operate with knowledge of UK law and not Jersey Law, and are therefore not from the same jurisdiction. How can a person from England claim after a couple of hours with a child and maybe the odd phonecall, that they know what is in their best interests?

The Guardian we have had the pleasure of a brief aquaintance with has not conveyed my son's wishes. In fact I have a copy of email correspondence in which the person writing the email states that all the 'guardian' wants to do is discredit me in Court.

The function of a Guardian Ad Litem in many cases in simply a sham, a device used to prevent the Court hearing the true wishes of the child.

If you are ever unfortunate to be in the position that you wish your child to attend court in care proceedings, below is a draft letter you can use, it would be up to you if you decided to appeal when your request is turned down as the opposing parties will object to this:

DRAFT LETTER:

I wish my child to come to court to testify. Children suffer far more from a perhaps permanent separation from their families than from a few hours in court. Children who WANT to come to court to tell the truth will suffer far more from being forcibly prevented from doing this than from being allowed to do so. There cannot be a fair hearing if my principal witnesses are prevented from giving evidence, and therefore I shall appeal if this happens on the grounds that my human rights have been infringed.

Convention on the Rights of the Child
Adopted and opened for signature, ratification and accession by General Assembly resolution 44/25 of 20 November 1989
entry into force 2 September 1990, in accordance with article 49
Article 12 of the United Nations convention on children's rights gives a parent the legal right to call their children in judicial proceedings as quoted below.

Article 12 (child's right to participate in decision making)
1. Parties shall assure to the child who is capable of forming his or her own views the right to express those views freely in all matters affecting the child, the views of the child being given due weight in accordance with the age and maturity of the child.
2. For this purpose, the child shall in particular be provided the opportunity to be heard in any judicial and administrative proceedings affecting the child, either directly, or through a representative or an appropriate body, in a manner consistent with the procedural rules of national law.

Any claim that this clause is satisfied by the appointment of a "guardian" or "independent solicitor" to represent the children's views by stating in court an opinion diametrically opposed to that of the children concerned should be exposed; this is simply a device to keep the children's true opinions and desires from reaching the court and as such a clear breach of the spirit of the convention.

In Mabon v. Mabon [2005] 2 FLR 1011, the Court of Appeal considered Rule 9.2A and the older line of authorities in the light of Article 12 of the United Nations Convention on the Rights of the Child 1989, and Article 8 of the ECHR. The court acknowledged the greater appreciation and weight which must now be attached to the child’s autonomy and consequential right to participate fully in the decision-making process that fundamentally affects his life. It held that
"in the case of articulate teenagers…. the right to freedom of expression and participation outweighed the paternalistic judgment of welfare."[paragraph 28].
However, if direct participation would lead to a risk of harm that the child was incapable of comprehending, then a judge could find that sufficient understanding had not been demonstrated. Judges must equally be alive to the risk of emotional harm that might arise from denying the child knowledge of and participation in the continuing proceedings [para.29].

Why exactly was my husband in court?

2009-07-08T00:30:00.000+01:00

Historical abuse claims: ‘Some unsuitable for court’
By Diane Simon

Attorney-General William Bailhache
A SIGNIFICANT number of complaints in the historical child abuse inquiry were unsuitable for the criminal courts, the Attorney General has said.
Those complaints, which at some stage were said by the police to be more than 100, included those of being made to take cold showers, being clipped around the ear, slapped about the head and flicked with a wet towel.
Commenting in his annual review, William Bailhache – who will be sworn in as the new Deputy Bailiff later this year – has said that those type of complaints were far divorced from the public’s perception of the nature of this inquiry.
Mr Bailhache has also said that some of the disagreements about the inquiry which occurred last year between law officers and Crown lawyers and the senior police officers running the inquiry were probably a result of some of those police officers losing their objectivity and perhaps being unfortunately willing to believe theories not rooted in fact.
He stated that while there had been some complaints of serious offences committed, the historical child abuse investigation had covered an enormous amount of ground and possibly gone wider than first intended.
Article posted on 25th June, 2009 - 2.58pm

This is the shortened version of the interview.......

Saturday 4th July 2009

2009-07-03T22:02:00.002+01:00

A PUBLIC PROTEST

SATURDAY 4TH JULY

12.00 NOON

PEOPLES PARK

Please come along and show your support.

At some point in all of our lives you have to stand up for what is right.

Have courage and stand up for what you believe in.

See you there!

What's the Difference?

2009-06-20T23:42:00.003+01:00

In a email recently i asked a social worker if the department runs using double standards. Unfortunately this point was never actually directly answered but the content of the response to my email did reveal the answer inadvertently.

Spot the Difference!

One email from me, asking them to investigate two assaults on a child, one by a social worker, one by an approved carer. The same child was involved in both cases and both allegations have similar 'proof', ie I had informed them of two incidents by email, in the same email. Now naturally you would assume that they would investigate the matter which may actually involve talking to the child but no here is their solution:

Case 1: Please can you fill in this complaints form?

Case 2: Make a police complaint.

Now I am sorry but there's no prizes for guessing, case 1 was indeed the social worker, clearly preventing any criminal charges being brought against them and protecting them from the law.

Now this highlighs the double standards that the department use, even if she did not answer the question directly.

Running a department in a manner that protects employees from criminal charges is plainly wrong, and yes I do have the correspondence to back up what I say!

Just a few thoughts....

2009-06-10T01:04:00.003+01:00

I find it quite disusting that the AG has come to the decision of not prosecuting certain individuals for child abuse with many statements made against them, he managed to prosecute my husband on one inconsistent statement made against him, with my husband frankly making a statement of what happened. Or was that his mistake of not going 'no comment' or even more possibly an attempt to cover up the illegal actions of a States employee?

Two children were unlawfully removed from my care, one I was told because he was a witness. I said at the time he could not be a witness as he was in the bath at the time. I was disbelieved. I have just received an email stating I can not have access to what he said at the time as he did not witness anything!

It does make me wonder of just how much this is costing for these unnecessary so called professionals who are purely there not to establish truth but to work against you to prove some justification of their actions. It gets tough but I still have some hope that our family will be re-united. If you know of anyone having similar experiances please advise them carefully of giving consideration to representing themselves, you just have to ignore the tutting and sighs as you speak and tell the truth. Even with prison being offered as a punishment for non-compliance, you have to stand up for what you believe in.

I am toying with the idea of perhaps starting up a group (or perhaps a solo act) to help anyone who is having problems with the way the system works. I quite like the name FACT -Families Against Child Trauma. If you would have seen the results of what they did to my little boy the 'alledged' witness you would understand the name. I have a little notebook where he wrote how he would die without his brother.

Justification?

2009-05-11T21:51:00.003+01:00

Lets go back to what this charade began with and it was my husband giving my son a couple of smacks with an open hand around the side of his head as a result of the unacceptable behaviour of my son. My son had racially abused a young girl, spat in her face and was hitting her and pulled her jacket away from her and threw it on some scaffolding.

This type of punishment (a smack) is rarely used by us (and not something I personally condone), however in extreme circumstances it can prove to be the shock needed to curbe the offending behaviour and quite frankly my son's behaviour was offensive and illegal. The punishment he received must have served as a shock to my son (not really ever having a smack before) to go running around school the next day saying he had been beaten up.

Now as a defence my husband used the defence of reasonable corporal punishment. It failed, so below I have reproduced article 79 of the 2002 Children's Law (Jersey). This explains the limitation of the use of this defence:

79 Limitation of defence of reasonable corporal punishment
(1) Any defence of reasonable corporal punishment of a child shall only be available to a person who was at the time of the punishment –
(a) a person with parental responsibility for the child; or
(b) a person without parental responsibility for the child who –
(i) is the father or relative of the child;
(ii) had care of the child; and
(iii) had the consent of a person with parental responsibility for the child to administer such punishment.
(2) Any defence of reasonable corporal punishment of a child shall not be available if the punishment involved any means other than the use of a hand.

Bearing this in mind, it really does make me wonder if his lawyer knew the law. Maybe if we could have afforded a lawyer who was actually going to represent my husband, perhaps the outcome would have been different.

My current stance remains the result of needing the recognition of what actually happened, and the fact all that happened was just a couple of smacks, nothing more nothing less. We don't need any 'help' from them. Unless this happens, as my mum says, and I agree, my son would have my husband over a barrel and what do we do live on egg shells waiting for the next time he does something like this? What would the SS do then? I will not put my family in that position, I love them all too much.

The one question remaining with me is does my husband's actions justify the way we have been villified by Social Services?

Hitting the Jackpot!

2009-05-04T00:07:00.002+01:00

For many months I have wondered why they have been able to take a selected few of my children away from me, well I think I have hit the jackpot I have found the only one thing in writing from an initial assessment. It states that I said that I would not take anyones side until I had heard both sides, for this reason and this reason only, come in No 1, you're sacked states because of this I would be unable to protect the children (only a couple of them though the rest were fine).

Now here is the thing, they have had a quick 'chat' with my son and raided my home like the Gestapo, asked my husband to do the infamous 'step outside' as they also did not have a warrent for his arrest or infact any care orders legally allowing them to remove my children from my care and have the cheek to insinuate that they now know my son and husband better than me. Well no they don't. I know their faults and strengths, I know who to trust and believe, I know when my son embelishes the truth, he has a little give away in his eyes most times and on occasion it is almost impossible to tell unless you know something 100% and even then I have got to give it to him, he's good. Luckily he also quickly forgets what comes out of his mouth so if you wait a day or so a clearer picture comes out. The initial my step dad's beaten me up and kicked me in the head (What my husband was arrested for in black and white) changed dramatically by the next day where no kicking in the head was mentioned. At one point my son says I watched everything then he says I did not see anything. However my husband's lawyer told him we could not interogate him as to whether he was telling the truth as the judge wouldn't accept it. I was not allowed to give evidence to get to the truth of the matter. They stated my son was at risk of intimidation. Well if you can call wanting to let him know that this is no joking matter and to tell the truth about what happened intimidating, then blow me, what's the point of a justice system if you do not want the truth.

There should come a point when common sense kicks in with a Social Worker, like on the second day, when his story had changed - they should have thought, hold on a minute we may have got this wrong.

However they had probably just gone too far in the destruction of my family to admit this. An interesting thing I found out recently was who would have given the go ahead at education for the removal of my children with a particular surname, and I would add it was who I thought it was. I just need it in writing now........

Silent Peaceful March.

2009-04-21T21:42:00.001+01:00

Silent Peaceful March

On April the 25th 2009 at 12 noon there is to be a silent and peaceful march from Peoples Park to the Royal Square. The march will be in support and acknowledgement of victims of child abuse past and present across the world.

On October the 21st 1996 up to 300,000 Belgian citizens took to the streets wearing white ribbons and arm bands as a symbol of hope which became known as “The White March”. It was not only a march for hope but also a silent peaceful protest against their governments handling of the of the Marc Dutroux case which bears many similarity’s, not only to the way our government has handled the child abuse scandal that has hit Jersey, but the way child abuse is handled by some governments across the world.

We would like the Jersey White March to be non political or critical of our government or police investigation. We believe it will be an opportunity to show abuse survivors and the rest of the world that the good people of Jersey do not condone abuse of any human being - child or otherwise. Abuse survivors, across the globe, have had theirs and their family’s lives torn apart, wrecked, and destroyed, not only by the heinous abuse they have suffered at the hands of their abusers but the wall of silence that inevitably surrounds the taboo subject of paedophilia and child abuse.

This March has the support of the Care Leavers Association (CLA) and the Jersey Care Leavers Association (JCLA) Please give this march and all abuse survivors your support and show the world the good people of Jersey DO care. We would ask if you are able to attend the march that you wear something white, a symbol of “hope”If you are a Blogger and support abuse victims around the world, please copy and paste this onto your Blog until the day of the march, SATURDAY 25th OF APRIL 2009 12.p.m.

My log 14th April - 16th April 2008

2009-04-14T23:46:00.002+01:00

Monday 14th April

Was told when I see **** it would have to be supervised. Not allowed to see him on my own.
16.30 **** attended my home, gave me the ‘initial assessment reports’ on (3 of my children – not the other 2).

Upon reading these reports a number of mistakes have been noticed.

Initial assessment totally irrelevant as it does not address the issue and appears to be centered around myself.
Wrong children’s name, ages etc.

Tuesday 15th April

No contact from Social Services.
Allowed two hours unsupervised contact with my husband and (4 children) and myself. Had permission from social worker to go out to dinner altogether.

Saw my kidnapped son round the back of home from the kitchen window at about 18.15 then he came round to the front door. He wanted to be able to come in but I had to tell him that I could not speak to him and that he could not come in as I had been told that I could not see him unsupervised. He left the house visibly upset as was the whole family.

Returning from ‘dinner’ all the children were inconsolable from having to leave their dad who could not come home with them due to his bail conditions. This is happening on a daily basis and is having an extremely detrimental effect on the whole family unit. I hope the Social Services can justify their draconian actions which will in my opinion have far reaching consequences into the future.

Complaint to manager **** at social services from my mother about the treatment of myself by the social services in my advanced state of pregnancy. My mother was left with the impression that they could not care less.

Wednesday 16th April

10.00 Doctor’s appointment. To check on my health and the health of my unborn child as a result of the extreme stress that I have been put under by the social services.

Dr **** phoned me back to explain his conversation that had taken place with (come in No 1, you’re sacked). I took notes from the phone call:-

My doctor’s first words to me were ‘I see what you are up against’. That he felt no empathy from her, she is on a mission and had nothing positive to say about my husband and I. He tried to tell her that he believed that the children were at no risk from us however she told him that she felt that there was a very important issue to investigate. He tried to discuss the situation with her but he did not get anywhere. He said I needed to have my husband home as in my advanced state of pregnancy I needed support. He was told ‘her daughter can help her‘, to which Doctor **** replied ‘a 15 year old is hardly any help and why should she take on the role of a parent’.

‘Come in No 1, you’re sacked’ totally dismissed the offer of a social and medical report on our family by Dr ****.

This whole experience leaves you feeling like you could actually get a response from a brick wall, in fact a conversation, and also complete the task of getting blood out of a stone in comparison to getting an ounce of common sense out of a social worker, perhaps they should also get a diploma in listening skills, it should be part of their job, unfortunately it isn't.

Well over a year on and nothing has improved in that department, just have their bizarre behaviour escalating. They have this excellent technique they currently use - they send you letters saying you are not co-operating with them, you reply asking questions, they totally ignore your correspondance, write you another letter saying exactly the same as the other, and so it carries on...... I can only assume they only pop their letters in the file to look good and lose mine, so I' ve even started emailing as well, still the same.

A few posts ago I mentioned the costs so far - a little update on that one - a couple of days after the post, we had a letter from one incompetent law firm, stating that even though they did not agree with us they were dropping around £750.00 off the bill. So I'll raise a toast for incompetence - the fantastic legal aid system!

Emails to and from James Reed

2009-04-06T00:29:00.002+01:00

As you will see from the email exchange below, James Reed has no wish to reassure parents that their children are in safe hands. Also note that he is unable to answer the last question which was - how come the national press can answer questions that he can't, or won't?

-----Original Message-----
From
Sent: 15 March 2009 00:59
To: James Reed
Subject: Question

Dear James Reed,

Please could you read the following two extracts and explain to me why you have been unable to answer a fellow States Member truthfully?

Quote from Voice for Children blog - 14th March 2009:

Deputy M. Tadier of St Brelade will ask the following question of the Minister for Education, Sport and Culture-

“Can the Minister inform the Assembly whether any senior officers in the Education, Sport and Culture Department are subject to Police investigations pertaining to child abuse and, if so, whether such investigations have been terminated?”

The question never got asked in the States due to question time running over. However Deputy James Reed submitted a written "answer" and here it is!

SirAt present I am unable to either confirm or deny whether I have received or am aware of any disclosures pertaining to any police investigations in relation to any employees at Education Sport and Culture.Police investigations are confidential until such time as a decision is made whether or not to charge an individual. In certain circumstances the Police may decide it is appropriate to make a disclosure to an employer about an investigation however such a disclosure is classed as confidential and the employer would not be able to disclose this information to another party.As a result of the above, I am unable to comment further on this matter.

Quote from article in the Guardian newspaper 14th March 2009:

Like Krichefski, Tilbrook was dead, as were others accused, including Jim Thomson, the superintendent of Haut de la Garenne in 1979, who was repeatedly accused of abuse. It was the living that presented Harper's team with the knottiest problems. The list of those who had worked at the homes included the serving education director, Tom McKeon, and his deputy, Mario Lundy. Both were interviewed by police earlier this year; both vigorously deny any wrongdoing.

I look forward to your prompt reply.
Yours Faithfully,

Subject: RE: Question
Date: Mon, 16 Mar 2009 13:45:33 +0000
From:J.Reed@gov.je
To

Dear I refute any such suggestion that I didn't answer the question truthfully and would like to know how you have come to conclude otherwise. My answer was as clear and unabiguous as possible and I stand by every word. yours James.

James Reed Deputy of St. Ouen Minister of Education, Sport & Culture direct dial: +44 (0)1534 449437 email: j.reed@gov.je www.gov.je

From:
To: j.reed@gov.je
Subject: RE: Question
Date: Wed, 18 Mar 2009 00:14:47 +0000

Dear James Reed,

Thank you for your prompt reply. Could you please then explain why, if this information is confidential, the Guardian (readership 1.2 million) named the education director? Surely the Newspaper's lawyers would have checked the legalities? I have four children in the education system and i am becoming increasingly concerned with this lack of transparency. Myself and the many thousands of ordinary Jersey residents deserve better than this, as do our children. In light of the information now being in the public domain, i ask you, are any senior officers in the education, sport, and culture department subject to police investigations pertaining to child abuse?

Yours Faithfully,

From:
To: j.reed@gov.je
Subject: FW: Question
Date: Thu, 26 Mar 2009 01:41:31 +0000

Dear James Reed, It is now a week since I emailed you last, unfortunately it appears you may have accidentally lost it, so I have forwarded it to you below. It is a simple answer that is required. Thank you.

Yours Faithfully,

From:
Sent: 01 April 2009 23:53
To: James Reed
Subject: FW: Question

Dear Deputy James Reed,
I would like to draw your attention to the following extract from the States of Jersey code of conduct guidelines, and once again ask you for an answer to my question.

Yours Faithfully

5 Maintaining the integrity of the States

Elected members should at all times conduct themselves in a manner which will tend to maintain and strengthen the public’s trust and confidence in the integrity of the States of Jersey and shall endeavour, in the course of their public and private conduct, not to act in a manner which would bring the States, or its Members generally, into disrepute.

Elected members should at all times treat other members of the States, officers, and members of the public with respect and courtesy and without malice, notwithstanding the disagreements on issues and policy which are a normal part of the political process.

Subject: RE: Question
Date: Thu, 2 Apr 2009 17:43:17 +0100
From:J.Reed@gov.je

Dear
I have nothing further to add to my original response which I have copied below. yours James Reed.

SirAt present I am unable to either confirm or deny whether I have received or am aware of any disclosures pertaining to any police investigations in relation to any employees at Education Sport and Culture.Police investigations are confidential until such time as a decision is made whether or not to charge an individual. In certain circumstances the Police may decide it is appropriate to make a disclosure to an employer about an investigation however such a disclosure is classed as confidential and the employer would not be able to disclose this information to another party.As a result of the above, I am unable to comment further on this matter.

Now is it me or do we as citizens of Jersey have to turn to English newspaper for answers? I could give him the benefit of the doubt and say maybe he has not got any idea of what is going on, but then he is the Minister of Education and should know who is working for him that may pose a real danger to our children.

Happy Anniversary

2009-04-03T20:17:00.002+01:00

It is without celebration that this day passes. A year ago tonight was when Social Services invaded our lives, not to help but to destroy a family. A year ago tonight somebody somewhere decided that I was not allowed to look after two of my sons, without even the courtesy of a visit to my home. No-one has admitted who made this decision, does anyone care? One week it took to be allowed to have one son back home, my other son has been earmarked for a full care order. We have always wanted him home, it was not my choice for him to be taken away in the first place - I have begged and pleaded for him to be returned home from day one.

A year on and all they have done is fractured the family to a point that it is accepted that he will never be 'our' son again, get his school stuff together, get up in the morning, take him to cubs, youth club, swimming, kissing him goodnight, you know the normal day to day things. There was a point last year when I was sorting through some of his books, when I just sat there looking at them, thinking he's gone. It was a point I imagine similar to grieving after a bereavement, a realisation that he is gone and whatever happens now the child we knew has become older, and less compliant as a result of being allowed to grow up too fast by the lack of care he is now being given. We will never have that time back and I look forward to the day that they will have to justify to my son why they destroyed a 'mother-son' relationship, and would not let him return home to a family that wants him.

Perhaps they are now going to use the same phrase as with Karen Huchet, 'an irretrievable breakdown in relationships' as the excuse for their quest of power over my son. As I have said previously, they do have targets to reach to make sure that their jobs are safe for life, forget the children.

Incidently which in fact makes all the more bizarre the advocate has actually stood up in Court and has said to the judge that it is correct I have done nothing wrong. So therefore it must be official that Social Services can in fact take your children unlawfully, keep them away from you, refuse to let you see them (unless it's under their terms, which again I've tried, but each time the arrangement has been stopped by social services - phonecalls etc) and eventually never plan to return them home. I have in writing that they do not plan to return him home........ ever.

Busy getting nowhere........

2009-03-20T20:00:00.003Z

Below is my last letter that was sent to the Law Officer who is representing Health and Social Services.

11th January 2009.

Dear ****,

I want an immediate and truthful response to these questions by yourself and the evidence to support your reply.

* Why have you not answered any of my questions in my correspondence to date?
* Who authorised the removal of my children from school on the 3rd April 2008?
* Who authorised the refusal of returning my children to me when I had done nothing wrong?
* Why has no-one addressed the conflicting statement of my son where it can be shown he lied initially saying he had been kicked in the head, also making false allegations of which there is no proof - 3 years of physical abuse?
* Why the illegal actions of **** (social worker) have not been addressed?
* Could you tell me exactly why my mother, their maternal grandmother, was assessed as inappropriate and by whom? Was this a unilateral decision or was a meeting held, or did anyone speak to her or visit her or assess her? On the evening of the 3rd April, (come in No 1 you’re sacked) had left me saying that the children would be staying at my mother’s house for that night.
* Can you also explain why **** was kept from the family home for a week when his interview took place the next day (Friday 4th April 2008), and why when he packed his bag to leave the **** on Saturday 5th April (because he wanted to come home to mummy and daddy), when (carer) phoned Social Services and spoke to the duty officer was she told *** was not to leave and that the situation was no concern of hers? In fact I was also told that I was not allowed any contact with **** or **** during this period. After **** had returned home I had to turn **** away from the house one evening as I was told by (come in No 1, you’re sacked) that I was not allowed to see or talk to him, an event that left the whole family extremely upset.
* Request of the copy of court order to remove **** and **** from their home.
* Request for the minutes of the meeting between Social Service and the PPU.
* Request viewing of ****’s video interview.
* An answer to why my mother was viewed as abusive and who made that decision.
* An answer to why **** was not returned home before the 23rd April.
* An answer to why **** was not returned home until the 10th April.
* Where an agreement exists between myself and the (carers)?
* Why the children were not returned to me within the legally stipulated time of 72 hours in the absence of a Court Order?
* Who forged the letter that was supposedly written by son **** and placed before the Court as an exhibit?
* Why is my son placed with unregistered carers in contravention to the Children (Placement) (Jersey) Regulations 2005?
* A number of major complaints have not been addressed or clarified to me after numerous written requests, i.e. how can a minor direct a Court of Law in Jersey to be able to impose bail conditions on an adult?
* Why you have actively conspired with (Advocate) to breach the Data Protection (Jersey) Law 2005 to obtain information about myself which you are not entitled to?

I look forward to a prompt reply inclusive of all the answers to my questions.

Around 6 weeks it took for a short reply.

The reply consisted of:

I'm sorry I can not answer your questions.

But I can tell you:

Your husband was charged and found guilty. ( like i did not know! )

The Data Protection Office are dealing with your complaint. (This is ongoing, but I may post about it soon)

So there it is I have the heads of Departments challenging me to address my complaints via a legal channel, and the legal route saying they can not answer my questions. So where is a person supposed to go from here.......?

Bullies In Cyberspace - my reply, just in case he visits!

2009-03-07T01:01:00.004Z

From Senator Jim Perchard.

WE live in an internet age. Communicating to people around the world is a matter of a few clicks of the mouse.
However, if you look at this internet age from a different point of view, you will realise that it has in fact bred some illegal and unethical practices.
While some use the internet for gaining information, others use it for destruction of sensitive data, or for demeaning and abusing individuals or organisations. While some use the web as a communication platform, others use it for and derive pleasure from intruding in the internet privacy of individuals and seek enjoyment from cyber-bullying.
Cyber-bullying and internet abuse is a growing and serious concern. The remoteness, even anonymity, provided by the internet encourages many users to behave with a boldness they would not otherwise display in any face-to-face encounters.
It is widely claimed that adult bullies are unable to cope with their own lives and problems and that they are easily intimidated and have strong feelings of jealousy and inadequacy.
They are thought to be desperate to receive attention, which they probably don’t receive at home or in relationships. I have noticed that they continually seek to discredit those in authority, particularly those who are influential, knowledgeable, capable and successful.
Even though many of them will understand when they have behaved wrongly, they still wish to appear as though they are morally superior. Strangely, they insist that others have attacked them and that they are the victims. It seems to me that they seek to lead and manipulate an unsuspecting group of their virtual friends to bandwagon, or gang up on, a target and try to gain attention for themselves by any means possible, usually through humiliating their target.
It is true that occasionally they can appear plausible, by introducing a cocktail of fact and fiction, but I am convinced that cyber-bullies are always vindictive and manipulative liars. They often, in an attempt to justify their behaviour, threaten their target with referral to a higher authority, eg the law, the UK Ministry of Justice, even the European courts, imagining that such authorities would be interested in the detail behind their vindictive tirade of abuse and bullying.
It seems that they are unable to internalise their own behaviours and become angry and unreasonable if someone attempts to point out how they were wrong or how their behaviour was unacceptable.
Cyber-bullies, like all bullies, will eventually prey on those closest to them in order to resist entering into permanent and lasting friendships. This is because they are mentally disturbed people who are incapable of having meaningful relationships. It is symptomatic that they find solace and power alone in their virtual world in front of their computer screens.
We as a society are learning about cyber-bullying at great personal and emotional cost to the many victims and their families. I hope that it will not be long before we establish acceptable boundaries in respect of the rights to freedom of expression, balanced against the rights to security and privacy of the individual.
I have given very careful consideration to the content of this letter, as I know it will provoke a hostile reaction in my direction, from cyber-bullies and internet abusers, those who believe it is their right to publish on the internet defamatory and hostile untruths about others. I for one am prepared to stand up to these bullies. I shall not be intimidated by them.Le Perchoir,Rue de la Vignette,St Martin.
Article posted on 28th February, 2009 - 10.00am

My Reply

Dear Senator Perchard,

As you are the Minister of Health and Social Services, may I respectively suggest that you address the problem of bullying in your own departments before trying to comment on the internet and cast psychological 'fortune teller' readings on users of the internet. Is it correct that there are only white consultants at the hospital here?

I think if you take a look at one of your departments - Social Services - you will realise that it has in fact bred some illegal and unethical practices.
I derive no pleasure from having to resort to 'blogging' to raise awareness of the illegal actions of States Departments. however you have left me no alternative. I have been bullied and intimidated by your department for months now. One conversation went 'well can't your husband find somewhere else to live then we'll give you your son back', I said 'sorry?', they repeated what they had said, I said ' are you joking? you do actually realise that I have 5 other children don't you? You want me to destroy the lives of the children and tell their father to leave home? I can't do that there's 5 children's lives to think about', and then they said 'it's OK the kids will bounce back', and my reply was 'well I'm sorry I can't talk to you anymore' and put the phone down. I had to, I was so upset at the time, just had a baby, and was sick of being intimidated.

I have tried 'face-to-face' boldness, however your employees appear to be trained in the art of deafness and carry on reading from their script, oblivious to what I am saying.

Apart from dealing with your departments, my life is fine thank you. My blog is based on fact, with my opinions and thoughts, and those of others through the comments. You would be amazed at the number of people who have contacted me privately - too scared to even post anonymously - now what does that tell you about Health and Social Services - you know the department that is supposed to help people - your department.

Sorry to dissappoint you but I have no 'psychological defects', (even after all I have been through this last year), obviously because of having loving, permanent relationships with family and friends and generally being a happy well adjusted person.

How can you be threatened with a higher authority such as the law, as you state? Is this your admission that your departments break the law? If you wish you are welcome to come and read my files - I'll show you all the highlights of my year.

We as a society are learning to protect ourselves and help others gain information that has been denied us for too long in Jersey. I hope that it will not be long before we establish truth and justice.

Yours Faithfully,
Oneday

A time for reflection.......

2009-02-28T00:02:00.004Z

Sometimes you need a little time to think things over, to do nothing, to say nothing .... just reflect on the situation. Believe me it does not get any clearer, there are now so many people who are involved, with not one being able to answer any questions with a direct answer (or infact anything that may be loosly described as an answer). A memorable one they other day was when i was told that given the situation that it was a little odd that i was questioning that they have broken the law.

I have for some time now realised that they have no intention of letting my son return home as I will not play their game and tell them how wonderful they are in kidnapping my children from me, letting me get over the begging for them back stage (yes I'm afraid I'll have to admit to a bit of grovelling which got one home), however I'm not one who can do that forever, and after the damage they have caused us I will never back down now. My son will be nearly old enough to do as he pleases soon and I will wait for that time. I will not have a grossly incompetent department dictacting to my family what we can and can not do.

I wish I could go into a bit more detail at the moment but I feel like I am at a bit of a crossroads at the moment but the long and the short of it is that complaining about a States department (employees) gets you nowhere - you complain up through the correct channels - you get nowhere - you go to the top and work your way down - you get nowhere - you complain in court - you get nowhere. You ask for questions to be answered - you get nowhere. I'm so busy getting nowhere - I'm loosing directions in Jersey!

I now have around 8 files and copies elsewhere full of interesting conflicting information, scattered with outright lies which a few pages on can be disproved by the same people who wrote the lies - police, lawyers, social workers, and other so called professionals - absolutly amazing reading if you are ever bored. It's also becomming quite apparent that you can't work for the States without having some rediculous 'manager of some sort' title. I am amazed at the amount of these types of people in Health and Social Services - no wonder they can not run the department, they must have to go through at least ten line managers to answer something as no-one can make a decision for themselves there - unless of course it is to do with child snatching then they are off in their element as they have to damage a certain amount of children to keep them in life long jobs, and then they can pass them on as damaged adults to the prison or to some psychiatric unit. Where would they all be without these little children......?

Secondary schools fail both children and parents

2009-02-10T04:11:00.002Z

In primary schools parents are actively encouraged to take an interest in their child's education. The schools often involve parents in outings, special days etc where most teachers do actually spend some time getting to know a family.

Where this changes is when they go to secondary school the door is slammed in your face. Your role as a parent is disregarded and is of low importance to them, they ignore your concerns and then have the cheek to get in touch when they have decided they have had enough.

You know it really makes me wonder who the Director of Education is - perhaps he should start with teaching the teachers to listen to the parents.

I have side lined a bit from the Social Services here but they are inter-linked. The reason for this is as a result of a phonecall made by mistake to me about my kidnapped son - yes they are still holding him to ransom, for almost a year now. I am still waiting for their justification of removing my son from my care - did I tell you that I have done nothing wrong? Most days words can not describe what I think of the situation.

Anyway back to the phonecall, after realising he had the wrong number - I was probably the last person he wanted to speak to at the time - I found out my son had been suspended for a week for amongst other things, 'threatening to stab himself'. So I also got the chance to put him straight on a few things too. Er hello Social Services, does that not tell you he is desparately unhappy with his current situation. You have only yourselves to blame, he should be with his family.

Well I ll end this one with the invitation we received to attend a 'looked after child review' - I beg to differ in the title - perhaps I'll attend once he is actually being looked after and is allowed home.

Child who launches a violent racist attack on a young girl gets...........Rewarded!

2009-01-24T23:03:00.003Z

You see back in April, we knew something was wrong in the way they were working and that is why we kept a log. I puposely kept it to the main points, not much emotion (Court's do not do emotions - just facts), wrote down times of calls etc. My husband also kept one which I will post soon. An important thing I have also noticed is God help kids at the weekend - because as you see Social Services do not 'do' weekends. Kids and families' problems must end early Friday evening and they are not allowed to resume until Monday morning. That's so the SS can have a well deserved rest after breaking up a family - it's a tough job but someone has to do it - I mean we don't want to promote happy, normal family life, it's simply no good for our career. You can just picture it now - feet up, glass of wine, a lonely existence, hey but what the heck, a nice bonus for their target figures.

Now back to the issue, not one person (except from us) has told my son his behaviour was disgraceful - in fact Social Services paid for him to go to a football club as a treat, now does that not send out mixed messages to an adolescent? So, instead of punishing him, were we supposed to say 'now, I loved the way you aimed your spit directly into her face, also you showed great multi-tasking skills as you hit her and at the same time called her a "f___ing muslim"', you know - the finding of good in everything they do? Well I'm sorry but I can't, I have nothing but disgust for his behaviour, it was inexcusable and not something he sees at home. So where is he learning this type of behaviour? - the only place that it can be is at school - so thank you for my son's new found skills they will get him far in life.

Over the last few months I have noticed that the education system is just as bad at dealing with 'bad behaviour'. No wonder you have a minority of students attacking teachers, they have no discipline or respect. The times have long gone where a teacher was in charge and the pupil's followed and we as a society have allowed this to happen. Why do school's have anti-bullying policies when they fail to adhere to them? When a child is identified as a problem, address the matter immediately, don't look for excuses or come out with statement's such as he's bullying children more vulnerable than himself so that's OK.

My log 10th - 13th April 2008

2009-01-19T00:12:00.003Z

Thursday 10th April

Told I could have *** for the day. First thing I did was put him in the bath and take him out of the filthy clothes he was in. So much for Social Services!!
During the day *** asked me if he was allowed to stay forever, one can only imagine what nonsense they’ve been filling his head with.

Phone call from *** to ask *** if he wanted to stay to which he replied yes. He passed the phone to me and she told me ’you have one happy boy there’. I beg to differ, the shear arrogance of the social services defies belief.

*** came up around 18.30 and I tried to explain some of the difficulties that we have experienced regarding ***’s behaviour to the extent that we were in the process of seeking professional advice to which she showed absolutely no interest in what so ever.

Friday 11th April

10.05 message from *** to contact her (on home phone number)
10.15 call on mobile, I was told my husband could not have contact with children over the weekend, no reason given.
11.05 *** phoned to say my husband could have unsupervised access to the children over the weekend. Are they trying to play mind games with us?
17.42 phone call to say she was coming up for a quick chat.
*** came up around 18.10 stayed until 19.30 for a ‘chat’.

Saturday 12th April

No contact was made by social services.
2 hour unsupervised access for my husband with *** and *** at my mothers house.

Sunday 13th April

No contact was made by social services.
2 hour unsupervised access for my husband with *** and *** at my mothers house.

An email from Ian Josephs

2009-01-17T01:05:00.001Z

THE GOLDEN RULES!!

Do PLEASE remember the golden rules: (By all means print this off and keep the copy near at hand if SS approach! Show these rules to your lawyer or social worker to prove that you KNOW your rights!)

REMEMBER THESE EVEN IF YOU FORGET EVERYTHING ELSE I HAVE ADVISED!

1: NEVER contact social services (child protection) for help or advice. Usually you should not report a partner who batters you or even a stranger who sexually assaults your young child, as if you do the SS will as often as not take your children into care (and later for adoption) to "protect them" from risk! If they have your children and you are fighting to get them back, NEVER NEVER tell social workers how you think you are going to defeat them, or what you are going to do next!Remember, without mentioning it to "them", that even if your children are "in care" social workers do not have the legal power to stop your children going to a call box to phone you,from going to any public library and emailing you, or even meeting you for a meal as long as they return "home" to the fosterers afterwards!

Care home girl abused by 25 men in 2 years

Source: Daily Mail Published: 27th August 2006
A 14-year-old girl placed in a council children's home was prostituted to a group of depraved middle-aged men because staff were powerless to stop her going out. The horrific story of 'Becky' is highlighted in a BBC programme presented by Fiona Bruce this week which reveals how she was sexually abused by 25 men over two years - despite being known to social services and having been placed on the Child Protection Register.
Even when she was put in a children's home - six months after her earliest allegations of abuse -staff allowed her to be used as a prostitute for fear their intervention might infringe her human rights. If the "SS" cannot prevent a young girl in their care from working as a prostitute then surely they cannot prevent other young people they "care for" from spending the day with parents if they so choose!Remember also that children of school age have a break so you can call them and speak to them through the railings without trespassing and nobody can stop you except a judge by serving a court injunction on you that will be too late to stop you reminding your children of their real family !

2: Never believe a word "they" say and always insist they put their promises down in writing. Always be pleasant and polite to social workers,but never forget they are your ENEMIES ! Remember that they may deliberately try to provoke you into shouting or violence that they will exaggerate in court leaving you with a criminal record and no children! When they shout at you forget your "pride" and look very hurt saying "why are you being like this to me?" or "I thought you were so nice until now, please don't bully me!" Be very respectful "tongue in cheek", but remember THEY ARE NOT POLICE so never follow their "helpful advice" especially if they say your only chance of getting your children back is to split from a partner, or parent you love and respect! They will try and turn you against each other as the "divide and rule" principle makes sure you are confused and demoralised when you lose your case and your children too! Quite often they arrange deliberately awkward contact times with your children. This can result first in the loss of your job and then as a consequence of that, your accommodation also. Object firmly and forcefully in court to their plans and fight hard to keep your job and your house or appartment.

3: NEVER, NEVER, NEVER sign any documents they present to you, even if they say "you have to!" Social Workers rely on BLUFF. In reality they have NO POWER and no right to threaten you or give you orders of any kind! Only a COURT via an order from a judge can give you orders, and you always have the opportunity to contest those orders in court either before or after they are given to you. No matter what threats,or promises they make, you can be 100% sure that if you get intimidated into signing they will break their word and expect you to keep your's! So, DO NOT SIGN! Answer "yes", "no" or "I don't know" to questions WITHOUT further explanations that could be twisted to be used against you! If the "SS" do not have enough evidence against you do not "cooperate" by supplying them with what they need even if they threaten you.If your enemies run out of ammunition ,do NOT send them over a box of bullets to help them out ! Once the SS have applied for a care order remember their main object is NOT the welfare of the child ,it is to WIN their case against you ! Disregard any threats that you must "do as they tell you ". Be polite and even apologetic when you refuse to obey them !

4: Never, never agree to let your children go into foster care (especially if they say it is TEMPORARY OR VOLUNTARY) Never "agree" the thresholds even if you are advised that this will ensure the return of your children, because if you do you will have admitted neglecting or abusing your child and the only question left will be to decide if you have really repented and are capable of "change"! Usually the answer is no! Sometimes your own lawyer may tell you to agree the thresholds and/or agree to an interim care order otherwise "you will never see your children again! "That is a wicked lie designed to save the lawyers work and to help you LOSE your children! Sometimes lawyers will tell you there is no need for you to give evidence as they will speak for you; that way you may find you have lost your children very quickly without being allowed to say a word, so BEWARE!Most of the "legal aid lawyers" in the family courts are rightly known in the trade as "PROFESSIONAL LOSERS"!! Many of them pretend to work for you when in fact they are really on the side of the Local Authority. Sack your lawyers and represent yourself if they will not let you speak! Never admit to social workers (who are your ENEMIES) that you have been at fault in even the smallest possible way,(they certainly will never admit to you that they were ever at fault!). You must never lie in court, but you should never never admit to any fault on your part unless forced to do so by a direct "yes or no" type question in court. You must never disobey a court order by taking abroad a child already in care, but if you are pregnant and threatened neither a court nor the "SS" can stop you leaving the country before the baby is born! Sweden and Ireland are good choices!

5: When possible refuse to be assessed by so called "experts, "(psychiatrists, therapists, psychologists, counsellors, professionals, and the like) unless your children are returned first as otherwise the process will take place in an artificial atmosphere with you as parents emotionally distressed because your children have been taken. Remember that if the "SS" insist on these assessments their sole purpose is to gather sufficient evidence to help them win their case against you in court!If you talk a lot and do not listen to them they will say you have mental problems or "PERSONALITY DISORDERS",so be "quiet and attentive" during assessments. Try not to answer questions with more than 5 or 6 words (they write down anything unhelpful you may let slip). Try indeed to answer "yes" or "no" whenever possible. NEVER COMPLAIN NEVER EXPLAIN! Complaints are a waste of time and divert you from the more important task of keeping or recovering your children. Never explain or elaborate when questioned as this only gives extra material to those who wish to discredit you. Never make angry personal attacks on anybody or threaten to sue the "SS" or police at a later date, as it just makes YOU sound bad.They may even seize on your resentment as an excuse to diagnose you with PARANOIA ! Your whole tone must be one of "sweetness and light" regretting that your children were mistakenly taken and that THEY (not you) suffered harm and anguish as a result! Your whole case must be that YOUR CHILDREN have suffered harm (not yourself) and that you are taking action for their sake not for your own! If you are accused of "being unable to work with the professionals", reply that you will work 100% with them if they say their objective is to reunite your family by eventually returning your children, but that it is unfair to expect you to work with anyone whose objective declared to the court is to put your children into care or worse still have them adopted!Remember that the SS often "brainwash" children in care by telling children in care that their mother is too ill to care for them or worse still does not love them or want them any more, but when they are adopted they will have a lovely new "for ever mummy and daddy"! Make sure you tell the children that wicked people have stolen them for money and that you will never stop fighting to get them back ! Whisper in their ears or calmly make the statement in spite of horrified supervisors Even children as young as 3 will remember all their lives such a brutal but necessary message. Vital however it is, as it will eventually make a stable adoption impossible to sustain !Your reluctantly adopted children will as a result seek you out and come back to you in the end !

6: Protect yourself against social workers barging uninvited into your home by fitting a small chain inside your front door. This means that if you do not unlatch the chain when you see who is calling that person would have to push the door hard enough to break the chain which would be a "forced entry "and a criminal offence if committed without a document from the court such as a "recovery order" specifically allowing entry using reasonable force. Unless they intend to actually arrest someone or have good reason to believe someone in the house is in danger of severe physical harm, police also would have to have a warrant before breaking the chain. Usually they will not have one and would have to convince a judge that a serious crime had been or was about to be committed before one was granted.

7: If social services request a look at your medical records (probably to try and find something to discredit you) ALWAYS write to any doctor or psychiatrist that has seen you as follows:

"I respectfully request you to keep all my medical notes strictly confidential as I intend to take legal proceedings against social services and any other persons who might obtain my medical details without my express authorisation".

8: Never write a letter to anyone connected to Social Services as you might include something that could damage your case in the family court. Only accept a solicitor if he/she promises to allow you a free hand to speak in court! You should be asked this simple question in the witness box "Have you anything you would like to say to the court?" Without this promise you may be "gagged" and as already explained in Rule 4 you can lose your case without being allowed to say a word!

Represent yourself if you can, but if you really do need the assistance of "professionals" the following contacts can be useful!

USEFUL CONTACTS:
(If your cause is just these professionals really will be on your side not that of social services !)

SOLICITORS:

Sandra Bradley
PRINCIPAL
Bretherton Law
First Floor
Alban Row
27-31 Verulam Road
St Albans
Herts AL3 4DG
DX 6101 St Albans
Tel. 01727 869293
Fax. 01727 853767

William Bache & Co
(best for criminal cases in my opinion)
The Clock Tower
4 Oakridge Office Park
Whaddon
Salisbury
Wiltshire
SP5 3HT
Tel +44 (0)1722 711719
Fax +44 (0)1722 713370
DX 46152 AMESBURY
Email enquiries@williambache.co.uk
or use the form below to contact us direct
BARRISTERS:
Barrister DARREN WATTS
TANFIELD CHAMBERS, 2-5 WARWICK COURT,
LONDON WC1R 5DJ
Tel (0207) 431-5300

Barrister ANDREW SCOTT
described by "The Telegraph" as " the people's champion
http://www.parklaneplowden.co.uk
Parklane Plowden
Tel: 0844 499 5678

Barrister CAROL McMILLAN
Westgate Chambers
64 High Street
Lewes
East Sussex
BN7 1XG
Tel: 01273 480510

Barrister Dr JOHN FOX
Chambers of Ami Feder,
Ground Floor,
Lamb Building,
Temple,
London EC4Y 7AS
DX 1038 (Chancery Lane)
Tel: 020 7797 7788
Fax: 020 7353 0535
e-mail: clerks@lambbuilding.co.uk
Out of hours tel: 07721 339232

PSYCHOLOGIST: Dr LOWENSTEIN tel 02380692621 and website = www.drludwigfredlowenstein.com

Dr Peter Dale (parent assessor)
Email: info@peterdale.co.uk
Phone from UK: (01424) 424504
Phone international: +44 1424 424504
Fax: 08700 941 477

Group from Home for Girls 1959

2009-01-12T17:53:00.005Z

This was Miss Mac's group.

This picture was taken in around 1959, just before the Home for Girls was closed down and they were transferred up to HDLG.

My aunt is in this photo, if the records are not available for this era my mum can identify at least half of the girls in the photo.

What to expect to hear from your very own criminal legal aid lawyer

2009-01-09T11:07:00.005Z

Yes, the play on words in the title is intended!

Well my husband who has never been in any sort of trouble with the police, told the truth in his statement - something that actual child abusers appear unable to do as I believe their standard answers are 'no comment'. My son was punished for his behaviour, that was all, he was not beaten up or assaulted, a fact that has evaded all proceedings to date.

I read Senator Shenton's take on the legal aid system in the paper the other night with some ammusement. Now is there some concern out there that the peasants may be revolting? Are they thinking 'quick lets think of something to keep these minions under control, if too many stand up for themselves and speak the truth we've had it!'

Here's some of the advice my husband received from his criminal lawyer:

This case should not even be in court but you will be found guilty - she's taken to fortune telling as a sideline.

You will be found guilty whatever you say - again the crystal ball is out.

When pointing out the many inconsistencies and lies in my son's statement (ie one thing said then a few questions later a completely different answer to the same question) - told sorry we can not use that as we are not allowed to say he lied.

Told accept to go guilty to a 'lesser' charge of assault, and told there is no point to have principles as he would be found guilty - read his tea leaves this time.

Or was it something else, was she not really a fortune teller and was it a pre-arranged guilty verdict?

I actually think it was the latter, I don't think she is in to fortune telling as she let it slip in her summing up, and I quote:

'I ask the court to find the defendant GUILTY'.

So much for a legal aid defence - a very big public thank you for your incompetence.

My review of 2008

2009-01-04T02:15:00.003Z

Well a quick round up of what I have learnt from 2008:

Never welcome a social worker into my house - I should have listened to my mother!

Never to employ a lawyer again - financial cost of this farce to date is approximately £2500.00 and yes that is with the 'free legal aid system', quite a hefty bill for our family. I will do all the research I can to represent myself, at least I know the truth and I am on my side and I will not work with the opposition. I always knew this happened but I have proof of this when my lawyer, wrote some information down wrong, she had given me some papers which I later found this information written by the opposition! - no wonder she was so flustered about me correcting her - I thought it was odd at the time as I said well just change it.... obviously already too late!

Always have in the back of your mind that your life can change in a moment, enjoy every second with your children, you may not have that chance tomorrow.

Do not believe you will see justice in a court.

Do believe that lies can be manufactured against you.

Get everything in writing, document everything you can. Now this may sound a bit over the top, but if I could tell you all you would understand - keep an accident record book for your children at home - like they do at work - keep notes from school, such as 'they bumped their head today' - you never know when you may need it.

Do expect to be told 'this is the way we do things in Jersey', obviously I have read the laws in reverse and what they they they should not do, they do.

Never to think that getting to the truth of the matter is easy, especially when you are right and they are so very in the wrong - remember 'come in No 1 you're sacked'?

Never think you are on your own - look for people that can help you. There's not many people in Jersey you can ask (actually I don't know anyone), but Jersey isn't the world and there is life outside the Island! Search the internet, a site I came across was by Ian Josephs, and as I read it, I was thinking how so very true his words are. Perhaps though as with many things in life you have to experience it to truly believe it, and by all accounts our situation is perhaps better than alot of peoples'. I would love to see a change in the system over here it does not work and they operate illegally. Perhaps somehow I will find a way to make a difference. I would like to see a truly independent body set up to act as an intermediary between the SS and families.

On a lighter note I would like to wish everyone a 'Very Happy New Year', and I'll raise a toast to 'truth and justice'.

Minimising

2008-12-18T00:59:00.002Z

This I find an interesting word, I have been accused of this, my husband has been accused of this and ironically so has my kidnapped son. I hear you asking what have you all been minimising - well the incident of course, silly. Now let me think, if the incident in question is not a big deal for all of us, why are they maximising the issue? Simple, refer back to my first post and you will see the answer - to cover up their illegal behaviour. Ironically they have chalked up around 6 criminal charges and a couple of civil cases. I think I would like to invite Themis and Nemesis to hold the court. I am a great believer in truth, I find it frustrating being lied to and about, it is amazing what people can say about you when they have never met you. What right have they to judge you on their biased, paid for thoughts. Never believe in the independancy of people, the only ones you can trust in a case like this is your family and friends and of course yourself. Treat them as an enemy and keep them far away, this is the time not to go along with the saying 'keep your friends close and your enemies closer'.

Here is my hypothetical quote of the week - if he's not allowed to go home he will rebel, but it is ok, in time this will pass.

I wonder if French Economist Claude-Frederic Bastiat (1801-50) ever thought how poignant his quote would be in the future -

'Once an abuse exists, everything is arranged on the assumption that it will last indefinitely; and, as more and more people come to depend upon it for their livelihood, and still others depend on them, a superstructure is errected that soon comprises a formidable ediface'.

Now think about this 16 years ago there may have been a couple of speech therapists for children at the hospital, now i would say it is a considerably higher number with their own department as well. You may have a child having difficulty with saying one word, but don't worry they will whisk them up the new department - don't forget they have to justify their jobs and if no children were referred, they would have no job. I think it's called job creation, creating a non existent problem and then the tax payers can pay for the solution. I have always been of the opinion that the majority of toddlers do not form and speak words fluently.

Has anyone any views on the management of Health and Social Services, what improvements could be made for users of the service, perhaps a list of recommendations could be compiled to send to them......

My advice so far....

2008-12-12T00:12:00.006Z

If you really have not done anything wrong, then never ever say you have. Lets face it why should you. Do not give in to daily bullying, covert threats and intimidation. One day it will end. If you agree to certain 'parameters' they set, such as parenting classes you are inadvertently saying 'hey, i'm an awful parent who needs help' whereas you should be saying 'my parenting skills are fine thank you'. The promise that you will then get your child back will fall through.

Never be rude otherwise you will be deemed as having some kind of personality disorder. However I believe I should not be accused of having any type of personality disorder or any other psychological disorder. My fear of the Social Services is extremely well founded. Had my next door neighbour committed the acts that 'come in No 1 you're sacked' has then I'm sure they would be facing a stint behind bars not enjoying protection from the States. Both my neighbour and 'come in No 1 you're sacked' would have the same legal rights in this case - none.

Health and Social Services - the service we should be proud of, is failing catastrophically in many areas. This is the service dealing with the most precious things in life - people. Without people, material things would be worth nothing, a tree would not care if it had the latest Mercedes or a battered Fiat next to it - so why should we? There is no excuse for the unnecessary destruction of a family. I am begining to think they may have the aim of the New World Order which includes the dissolution of family life, and one nice big happy Government. That's a thought, the financial markets going down, banks etc - Government takeovers - next smaller Governments fall - Government takeovers and after a few more chain reaction take-overs, hey presto - One Government!

So a few tips of advice just incase you ever are unfortunate enough to need them:

Never let them in the door without showing you (and you reading it) a warrant, and put a chain on your door if you have not already got one. If they try and force it open without a warrant, it is a criminal offence.

If you have done nothing wrong never admit to something you have not done (they can try and trick you into this one).

If they have your children already with no care order and there are no restrictions on you imposed by the police etc, go and get them.

Do not believe what they tell you, they can be proved to lie to get the results they want. This reminds me of the film Matilda, with Miss Trunchable saying 'I'm right, you're wrong, and there's nothing you can do about it'.

Remember do not give them the box of bullets to shoot you with - metaphorically speaking of course.

I'll add to the advice as I continue this blog. A close friend of mine had been put in the sitution of being too frightened to call the police because of the intimidation from the SS when she was with her husband and reported him for assault. She's agreed to share her experience and I will do a separate post for her at a later date, but I will say that instead of helping they made her feel like a victim all over again.

This week has been odd for me, getting Christmas things sorted, which in this house is like a small military operation, the sadness of a part of us not here, and yet the elation of accepting my BSc (hons), after 7 years of study is clouded by my family been kept apart by the SS.

My log of the 7th - 9th April 2008

2008-12-07T22:04:00.001Z

Monday 7th April

**** and **** had no clothes all weekend and were still in school uniform. (was informed by my daughter)
10.00 my husband was in court. Bailed with restrictions to stay at my mother’s house and not be allowed to the family home.
14.40 my husband and I attended Maison Le Pape to see *****.
After discussion with ***** we left with the impression that the children were coming home soon. She promised that she would bring ***** and **** home in the morning before 11.30 as she had a meeting at 12.00.
15.40 we left Maison Le Pape

Tuesday 8th April

Waited for promised phone call and children till 11.30. By this stage I was completely distraught. No call received.
Phoned 11.35 to ask when the children would come home. Was told ‘oh sorry we have now got to wait to see if you are being charged with wilful neglect’. yet again I could not believe what I was hearing.
I then informed her in no uncertain terms that they had no right to keep my children.

Wednesday 9th April

One hour supervised visit allowed with ****, no ***** with (come in no 1 you’re sacked). On seeing **** I gave him a hug, he was filthy, stunk and was in a fearful state. Seeing him like this made me extremely upset.
Asked if I would be able to cook tea for *****, I said of course I could.
***** was not allowed to stay at home. I was crying as she wrenched him away from me which left me in a state of collapse.

Here is a few tips I have found for any budding social workers out there!

2008-12-06T23:42:00.006Z

'Rules for certain British Social Workers'

by Ian Josephs at www.forced-adoption.com

If you want to become a British Social Worker, and work in

our children's departments, 'you have to obey the following rules'

Please note:- Kind, genuine, caring, honest people need not apply

1. If you yourself have an unhappy or non-existent family life you are an ideal candidate to become a social worker. When you get used to breaking up other people's families and taking their children you will forget your own troubles and it will make you feel great. Remember however, that if you come across a really brutal family where a child is being cruelly abused (like little Victoria Climbié), just clear out in a hurry and leave them alone. Don't worry, no-one will expect you to risk your own safety.

2. If mothers or fathers come to you for help, pretend to sympathise, as the Children's Act itself says "befriend them". Then if they have just one difficult child, or a low IQ, go to one of our friendly family courts and get an emergency protection order without telling the parents, and you can go and get their children off them. It's so easy to take children from the families naive enough to go to us for help. What do they know anyway, they don't have our qualifications in sociology.

3. Go out now and collect as many babies as you can. Dig up some irrelevant fault in the parents past and the court will almost always give you an emergency protection order when a new baby is born. This means you can actually go to the hospital shortly after birth and snatch the new-born from the mothers arms. These mothers then are mostly condemned for life to produce babies for us themselves!! That will teach them to try and resist our plans!! Years ago we used to bully unmarried mothers into giving up babies in their thousands, but now that being a single parent seems respectable we unfortunately have to trawl round to find the mothers we can accuse of neglect even if we have to manufacture the evidence ourselves. It is all part of the job!!

4. Some parents will dare to oppose the care order or worse still refuse to sign adoption papers. Show no mercy to them. Encourage your expert barrister to demolish the character of any parent/s opposing you. The court will be in secret, so if parents complain to the press or to the public about any so-called injustice, they will be sent to prison for contempt. Freeing orders are so easy to obtain. We have got it all completely sewn up! Their legal aid lawyers usually agree to everything we say. They usually instruct the parent/s to allow their children to be taken and tell them to "jump through hoops" for us. Yes....It's true....most actually help us.

5. Once we get the children we brainwash them into saying unpleasant things about their parents on video, then we gradually reduce all contact with the families so we can finally get the youngest adopted and the others in long term foster care, hopefully for the full duration of their childhood. Murderers in H.M. prisons are allowed to phone home to their families, but that is not how we work in the S.S. !! We FORBID all kids in our "tender care" to make or receive telephone calls. They may tell their parents they want to come home, which will spoil our plans. Once we have legal control, we can gradually destroy their so called families by keeping parental control to the absolute minimum, and then eventually stop it all together. This way kids soon forget their families and settle into our rather special routine!

6. Are you sad that witchcraft trials finished 200 years ago? Never mind, we revived it all again with great success in the Orkneys accusing all sorts of parents of witchcraft and satanic abuse. There was no need for hard evidence (just a couple of kids who had watched too much late night TV), as our word is always good enough in secret family courts. We took children away in the middle of the night from all over the Orkneys. We only had to release them in the end because of interference from the gutter press. (This one's for you Shan (FASO). A good decent mum).

7. Professor Roy Meadows proved a good decent ally. He and his colleagues have given us literally thousands of babies and children, all put out for adoption thanks to his idiot theory that if a baby is ill or dies it is probably the mother harming it deliberately to gain attention for herself. This way she loses any future babies as soon as they are born. Who cares if his ideas are crazy? The judge only has to think mothers are PROBABLY guilty, so they end up crushed and defeated. No real proof is needed in family courts where the social workers and our "tame expert friends" are always believed no matter what the parents say. It's a doddle!

8. Let me remind you once again. Our job is to to SPLIT FAMILIES UP, not keep them together. To date I can report record numbers of shattered families and plenty more in the pipeline. Remember that the end justifies the means. You might think that parents who go to court weeping to recover their children would convince the judge of their love and sincerity and should usually win. Not on your life! We fight these impertinent purveyors of sentimental claptrap tooth and nail. We always win because purely in the public interest we are very economical with the truth in court and we brainwash the children to say whatever we want on video. (Even easier for us to do this with frightened children than for the Iraquis to tame tough US marines so successfully that they repeated everything they were told to say on video).

There is one point I would also add in light of the current developments over here, is that if you do take a stand and say this is unlawful in the way we are operating, and treat the children in our care, then let it be known that you will be sacked. We will then fabricate evidence against you also and do our best to discredit you very publically.

On the subject of intimidation

2008-12-04T01:37:00.002Z

When I started this blog recently, I was warned about being intimidated by a couple of people, which I suppose is a sad indictment of our present 'Government'. However I would like to share a couple of statements with you all so I can perhaps have some feedback on how other people may interpret things another way.

I will not mention who was the messenger, here is the first one, 3 months ago:

And I quote 'you must agree with everything they (social services) say, otherwise you will not get your son back'.

Did I agree? - No, because they have broken the law.

Second time, around a month ago (with a witness):

And I quote 'you must agree with everything they say, otherwise you won't get your son back'

I said 'well I won't agree because they have broken the law and they are in the wrong'.

Reply to my statement was, and again I quote 'well you won't get your son back then'.

Today came a little more flowery version of the same type of thing just disguised in longer sentences with a few added distracting words. No doubt because it was done in writing.

Now this to me outlines the fact in bold that the best interests of my son do not come into play at all. This is a game of chess, they must win at all costs. The cost is my son.

'At least he's got freedom now'

2008-12-01T23:39:00.005Z

During the weeks that I attempted to work with 'come in No 1 - you're sacked' I must admit she came up with a few classic one liners. 'At least he's got freedom now' she said at the top of my stairs on her way out in front of my mum and aunt who actually couldn't believe what they were hearing.

This comment completely epitomises the differences in how I view a child should be cared for and the views of the social workers I have met to date. Obviously I can only talk about the ones I have met, I am waiting for one that may know the definition of common sense and reasoning and be able to apply it to their working day.

I believe my son should be part of his family, doing the day to day things a family does, trips to the zoo, swimming, the park and beach etc. Yes there are boring bits, but family life is about the mundane side of life as well as fun. I believe children should be taught to look after themselves to a certain extent and by that I mean my 16 year old daughter will occasionally cook a simple dinner, help tidy up, hoover - if they don't get taught things like this and have some sort of responsibilty what hope will they have when they leave home. I have also found out how awful I am in allowing a child to get a bowl of cereal all by themselves at the age of 12 according to come in No 1 you're sacked. I also encourage them to to do their best at school and to be proud of what they achieve how ever small. I have always taught them to be polite and that manners will get them long way in life.

The current living situation is quite honestly wrong for my son. They have placed him with people who spend alot of the time out 'socialising'. Most of the time they do not know where he is, some time he's here but they do not know. I'll explain the background to this situation at a later date, but for now I have expressed my extreme concerns about his safety and well-being whilst in the'care' of these people both verbally and in writing. What I now see is my son turning from a silly little boy into a criminal, all thanks to the social services. Since April he's had more than 30 detentions, been suspended from school, interviewed by police 4 times and we've even had the delight of a trip to the Parish Hall. He's being allowed to roam the streets late at night, once he was seen out at at 01.45am, I've caught him out smoking. He's been drinking alcohol, you name it I think he's probably done it.

I have lost count of the times I have told social workers this and many more things which can be proved - do they care, absolutely not.

I would like to know if it's just us or is it wrong and negligent of people to allow a child to be wondering around the streets in this manner - a trip to the cinema with friends ok - but getting up to no good is very worryingly wrong. I have told the social services that they are not doing a very good job of keeping my son out of harms way. They obviously think they are doing a fantastic job as they will not let him come home. At this rate I ll soon be able to tell you if they have really got rid of the Grand Prix system at Greenfields.

To say I find this frustrating would be an extreme understatement.

'See where uncontrolled freedom takes the child', I have told the SS countless times that he is a child that cannot handle freedom, his behaviour spirals out of control and back in April, I said this along with 'if he's made to stay where he is he will be in Greenfields by Christmas'. Did they listen - no, I'm just his mother what do I know. Actually I know alot more than they do in managing his behaviour.

My log of the 4th - 6th April 2008

2008-11-29T23:17:00.002Z

Friday 4th April

Waited for ***** to contact me. Was told that they would come and see me after they had interviewed the children at 10.00am. No-one contacted me. Went to the police station at 14.30 to see if I could find out firstly where the children were and what was happening to my husband. I fully expected that the children were coming home today.

Whilst at the police station:
14.40 ***** phoned me to say that I would not be seeing the children, definitely not over the weekend but maybe the next week with no explanation to why except that they did not feel safe at home.

Told not to try contacting the children at all.

Saturday 5th April

No contact was made by social services.
Whilst at her father’s house ***** phoned me to say how upset ***** was and that he had tried to run away from there to come home saying that he wanted to see mummy. I talked to him to tell him how much I loved him and that they would be both home soon and that he was not in any trouble.
My daughter stayed at home with me that night.
My husband was taken to La Moye prison in the morning to appear in court on the Monday morning.

Sunday 6th April

No contact was made by social services.

Now initially they failed to obtain a Court Order or a warrant for arrest on the 3rd April 2008. They also failed to obtain authorisation for the removal of my children from school from the Minister of Education.

Sunday, oh if only I knew then what I know now I would have gone and picked them up. This is the day that 'come in number 1 you're sacked' gets into sticky ground. Whatever reason they have given for taking your children after 72 hours their luck runs out and they are legally obliged to return your child/ children home. If they keep them away from you they have to apply for a Court Order which has to be shown to you.

Guess what - they did not have any Court Orders. They were acting illegally. 'No 1 - you're sacked' fraudulently took my children from me and then unlawfully kept my children away from me with no lawful reason or excuse. 'Kidnapped'.

A Social Workers Poem - by Ian Josephs

2008-11-28T23:49:00.002Z

In my months of researching the various laws etc, I came across a very interesting gentleman on the web. As I read more of what he has written I knew exactly what he was talking about, anyway I thought you may like a poem of his:

A SOCIAL WORKER'S POEM

I am a social worker,
I'm really very nice.
I help you loving mothers,
And give you good advice!

Your partner has departed
Your income is too low.
I'm really very sorry,
All your kids will have to go!

Your partner is abusive?
He beats you black and blue?
We'll soon be there to help you,
And take your children too!

You have a learning problem,
You're really not too clever
We'll get your kids adopted
When can you see them?? NEVER!!

Your son is hyperactive?
You need a brief respite;
We'll soon take ALL your children
Give up the hopeless fight!

Your child was taken into care,
So many years ago
If now you have a baby
That too will have to go!

Foster parents love your kids
To get some more they seek,
For each one brings a tidy sum
£400 per week!!

Children's homes are run by us,
Where paedophiles abound
Each time we cover up abuse
"The gutter press" come round

"They" said adoptions worked the best
We soon proved that they would
Fathers shout and mothers cry
Their kids are gone for good!

What happens in our special courts?
Our experts they will say
"You're a danger to your children,
So we'll take them all away!"

Your children may be healthy,
Happy and well fed
But one day you might hurt them
That's what our experts said

The judges know that we are right,
With us they will agree
They dare not risk another course
You have no chance you see!

Our special courts are secret,
So don't you breathe a word
Of what goes on inside those walls
No matter how absurd!

We'll get your kids adopted,
And don't you dare complain!
Or you'll end up in prison
And I won't say that again!

We have adoption targets,
They must be met you see,
Failure means a reprimand,
So spare a thought for me!!!

by IAN JOSEPHS (a very social worker!)

'You won't get what you want'

2008-11-27T15:57:00.000Z

This is a statement that has now been with me for many months. It was the mature, professional comment from the first social worker that I had the pleasure to meet. Upset I said to her 'all I want is my family back together', her reply was 'well you're not going to get what you want'.

I wonder, had I said something out of place, why shouldn't I want my family back together?

Mind you to this day they are helping her keep her word.

You would think it was simple wouldn't you, my son wants to be home (he's stated this many times to various people from April), we want him home (have not said he should be living anywhere but home), and yet he's still not home. However the Children's Service are opposing him being allowed to live with his family. He also has five brother's and sister's at home. They are breaching our Human Rights. They also have not allowed him contact with his extended family either, again breaching Human Rights. They want to control the family telling us when we can see each other (actually more not allowed to see him) and for many months I thought they had power. Now I see my son whenever we want and look forward to the day he will be allowed to live again as part of his family and not as an outsider (this is done behind their back as they have lied to both my family and my son).

Here's a little taster of one of many lies:

Doorbell went, answered door signed for a letter 'couriered' to me by 'my(?)' lawyer's stating how much my son did not want to see me, I turned and looked at my son (the one not allowed home), and thought - 'I dost think they're telling me fibs'. This event was the proverbial straw that broke the camel's back and my lawyer /client relationship was terminated.

A truly sad moment happened last week when my kidnapped son asked if we could go and watch him play football. We had to miss it because my huband is working off his 40 hours community service and it was at the same time.

Here's a couple of phrases that are commonly used when dealing with the not-so-nice employees (as I have said not all are the same, I am hoping I have just been unfortunate):

'I'll speak to my line manager'
'We don't have the facility'
'They're scared of you'
'It's all your fault anyway'
'I'll have to investigate you'

When dealing with people that may question them then that's an easy one:

They are deemed 'abusive'.

This happened to both my mother and doctor when they put in a complaint about Social Worker No 1 (I'ld like to be the director of the Prisoner so I could say 'come in No 1 you're sacked).

Another one was, when a Social worker was told complaints about their illegal actions and behaviour were going in, we were told 'yeah - bring it all on'. So I am.

Hold on did I remember to tell you - I did nothing wrong?

I think this is the moment to congratulate Simon Bellwood who stood up and said 'this is illegal' about the Grand Prix system. I just wish there were a few more like him with integrity then we would see greater changes. Silence is allowing them to commit unlawful acts.

Thinking about this, they must have confused me for 'The Life Skills Teacher' as I have been told I have a punishment room downstairs. So be careful if you live in a townhouse style place where they put a bedroom two floors down from anywhere else and of course if you have a bed, wardrobes, curtains, flat screen TV, DVD player etc in the room. There may be a few people glad to live in our punishment room. Sadly not one of around 9 people took up my offer to come and see the room. Want to come and see? - Sadly I can only guarantee comfort and soft furnishings.

My Log of The 3rd April 2008

2008-11-26T13:24:00.000Z

I have taken out the names from my log, but a number of people have a copy including Ministers and the Court.

So here's the day my life started on this roller coaster of lies, deceits and cover ups:

Thursday 3rd April

10.53am **** school secretary phoned me to say that ***** had been involved in messing around in the playground before school and had fallen and had a lump on the back of his head (no mention of extensive bruising to an ear). My reply was ‘that doesn’t surprise me’. I was told he was fine and had been sent back to class.

15.35 received a phone call from a lady identifying herself as *******, a social worker who told me that she had picked up my children from school. She then asked for my permission to the examination of ****** by the police doctor as a result of serious allegations that he has made. I was totally shocked by this and when I tried asking how this situation had occurred was given no information. I could not believe what I was hearing and asked for her to phone back in 5 minutes so I could try and comprehend what she had said to me. I asked when the children would be returned home she refused to answer me and spoke with a condescending attitude.

I would like to especially know who authorised the collection of (other child) from (another) School without my permission and for no valid reason.

Also who tricked my daughter ***** to going to the police station on the pretence that I was already there. Also once there she asked where I was and was told that I was on my way down there, when they had forbidden me to have any contact with my children.

15.45 phoned back to ask for my permission again for an examination for **** which I granted and then I was told she would come and see me after the examination. Again asked when the children would return home. Was told ‘at this stage I can not answer you‘.

17.00 police and social workers arrived at the door. Firstly my husband **** was cautioned and arrested by two police officers and taken to the police station. Two social workers and a child protection officer entered my front room. Here they told me that the children’s home was not safe for them to stay without giving me any proof or evidence of this alleged allegation. Was asked where they could stay for one night I said ‘at my mother’s house’ they told me to phone her and ask. By this stage I was in tears and extremely upset, I phoned my mother to try and explain a situation that I did not really understand I was completely taken aback by these people sitting there telling me my home was not a safe environment for ***** and *****. My mother understandably was also upset as I am 29 weeks pregnant, sobbing down the phone trying to explain why I was not allowed to have care of my children. My mother asked to speak to a social worker to try and establish the facts and was told that it was nothing to do with her and they did not like her attitude and therefore she was an unsuitable grandmother and were going to have to conduct a police check on her. To which my mother replied I am a holder of a PSV badge so therefore I do not need a police check to which thy replied ‘how do we know that?’
After this call the social workers (*****) told me they did not think the children should stay with my mother. I burst into tears again and said it is obvious she is going to be upset the children love going up to grandma’s.
They left with overnight bag for **** and *****, leaving **** and **** behind in my care with the assurance that **** and ***** would be staying with my mother.

I was so upset and frightened that they would not let the children stay at my mother’s that I sent her a text saying ‘please just agree with what they say otherwise they won’t let the kids stay with u x then god knows where they ll take them’ time text was sent -17.53.28 03/04/08

****** phoned me from the police station on her mobile asking if she could also stay at grandma’s, I said should not be a problem but I will phone and check.

My mother phoned ***** and she was in tears and said she could not come as she was not allowed to and the social worker took the phone from my daughter and told my mother that the children were to frightened to come and stay with her and that she would be further investigated as to why. They would not tell my mother where they were taking her grand children and that she was not allowed to contact me. My mother replied try stopping me I am going there now.

18.28 withheld number
Was told by ***** that the children were not going to my mother’s as they were scared of her. I was told they were going to stay with my ex-partner, father of my eldest child **** but no relation of **** and ****.
Told not to try contacting the children at all as I would be charged with perverting the course of justice.

Now please do remember in all of this, I had done nothing wrong.

Backgound

2008-11-26T00:32:00.000Z

Information from the Citizen's Advice Bureau:

Smack or Assault? ( 8.30.65.L6 )

Sunday, 08 April 2007
LOCAL INFORMATION
8.30.65.L6 Smack or assault?
Extent: JerseyMarch 1996Updated 30 November 2004 ---------------------------------------------------
In Jersey there is no clearly defined line between the lawful correction of a child and a criminal physical assault. The onus is on the prosecution to prove that the child was 'recklessly' harmed and the injuries were 'intentional'.
It is accepted that parents in Jersey are entitled to correct their child, and/or teachers or other persons having lawful control or charge of a child, to administer punishment to her/him.
When parents hit or slap a child enough to cause marks or bruising, they have definitely overstepped the mark. A slap is permissible, to use an implement (such as a belt) is not acceptable.
Cases of possible physical abuse are referred to the Children's Department. Each case is dealt with on its merits, there is close liaison between the Children's Department and the Police before prosecutions are brought.
Under Article 35 of the Children (Jersey) Law 2002, it is an offence for any person who is responsible for a child under the age of 16 to recklessly or intentionally:
cause any harm to that child
expose her/him to a risk of harm; or
neglect him in a manner likely to cause her/him harm.
Last Updated ( Friday, 08 June 2007 )

Now the story began like this:

On the 2nd April 2008 my husband witnessed my son attacking a girl in St Helier, pulling a garment of clothing from her, spitting in her face, hitting her and saying racially abusive comments to her. My husband pulled him into the car (as he was picking up him and a friend) disgusted by his behaviour. Not wanting to cause him humiliation in front of his friend and obviously because he was driving any correction for his behaviour was to be addressed at home (obviously dangerous to do this at that same time as driving as he may have been distracted from the road). On their return home my son's disgusting behaviour warranted a short sharp shock. My husband expressed his dissapproval of his behaviour and slapped him a couple of times. He left no marks or bruises on my son and he did not use any implement.

Now even though in general I do not approve of smacking children, in extreme circumstances occasionally this type of chastisement can be what is needed to nip in the bud the potentially dangerous and illegal behaviour committed by the child.

There is an extreme difference between an action such as this and the appauling institutional abuse cases that Senator Stuart Syvret is working around the clock to ensure justice for the victims. One day i truely hope that will happen. My mother and my aunts were 'brought up' in the Sacre Coeur, my mother whilst in the States run Creche, had the top of her finger chopped off by a staff member, and in HDLG - where they hold a number of not so nice memories of their childhood. One can only imagine the fear they had to live with, with no one to turn to but each other. My brother has also experianced the 'not so kind care' of a current civil servant et al. at Les Chenne in the 80's. A number of years after he said to me 'I knew I had won when I saw fear in his eyes' (about the current civil servant). Although he has never blamed the way he was treated with the way he turned out - what his statement says to me is that he was once a frightened little boy.

Anyway back to the story - Can you be found guilty of causing harm to a child by slapping, leaving no marks and not using an implement? - Yes especially when you are trying (but not getting anywhere) to complain that they (Social Services) have broke the law and kidnapped your children and also did not follow their own procedures in obtaining evidence.

Now I know not all Social Workers should be tarred and feathered, there are some very nice ones. For example I did actually like one of them, when I asked him if my children were kidnapped to meet some sort of office targets - you must get 3 kids this week - he kindly informed me that yes they did actually get targets. I thought I was joking...... appears not.

I also asked how come they managed to return one home but not the other and asked if it was because one was nicer looking than the other, cute, blond hair, blue eyes.... This was asked because in the 60's they were quite fond of forcibly adopting babies especially those children of the children from the homes and my aunt's baby was given to a convicted paedophile. Unfortunately he offered no comment to this question. Very soon after he left the job.

Will Justice ever come to Jersey?

2008-11-25T00:10:00.000Z

Well perhaps the first point to address is why i have started this blog and if i'm honest it's in the hope of seeing justice throughout the States Departments and for them to be held accountable when they break the law. A pattern seems to form over the years and it is a method they use again and again - they break the law and therefore will use any measures possible to cover up their illegal actions including abusing the Legal system. I have no doubt of their powers, believe me i could tell you about a fictitious boat I was booked onto to prevent me going to a trial, when i arrived, the Condor terminal was in darkness with a little man brushing the floor, telling me I must have it wrong as the boat never sailed at that time/ day. So I obviously showed him the ticket, then he couldn't explain what had happened. Another longer story involves being double-crossed and the Home Office becoming involved in this instance, but I suppose life is for adventure......

However their latest one to me is kidnapping my children. Yes you did read it right - kidnapping. This is not a wild accusation, I have documented proof of this, but have you ever tried getting justice or truth out of a States Department? This started with the vigilante and illegal actions of Social Workers on the 3rd April this year. During the course of the last few months i have even seen them offering up falsified evidence to the secret family court - this court is so secret over here twice i have had problems even finding the hearings listed, standing at the Greffe saying there is a hearing - being told we have no listing etc. Eventually to be told - oh we've found it. I have also taken the step of representing myself as one child is still in effect kidnapped. I am writing this as an account of what has happened to my family over the last few months, the story will unfold in parts. Again everything I will put on here can be proven. I will not stop until all those involved are held accountable.

I also passed on the information that would of highlighted the illegal operations of the department on the 20th April 2008 to the Minister, to ask for his help. Instead he passed the buck and I have now a few more names to add to the list of those involved in this cover up. They expect people to bow down and grovel to them, but not me, I am currently compiling my case against the Social Services.

I may leave certain items out from my record at this stage, the main reason for this is there are current legal proceedings and also for future court case as I do not want to give the Law Officers an unfair advantage by handing my evidence on a plate to them.