Busy getting nowhere........

Below is my last letter that was sent to the Law Officer who is representing Health and Social Services.



11th January 2009.


Dear ****,


I want an immediate and truthful response to these questions by yourself and the evidence to support your reply.


* Why have you not answered any of my questions in my correspondence to date?
* Who authorised the removal of my children from school on the 3rd April 2008?
* Who authorised the refusal of returning my children to me when I had done nothing wrong?
* Why has no-one addressed the conflicting statement of my son where it can be shown he lied initially saying he had been kicked in the head, also making false allegations of which there is no proof - 3 years of physical abuse?
* Why the illegal actions of **** (social worker) have not been addressed?
* Could you tell me exactly why my mother, their maternal grandmother, was assessed as inappropriate and by whom? Was this a unilateral decision or was a meeting held, or did anyone speak to her or visit her or assess her? On the evening of the 3rd April, (come in No 1 you’re sacked) had left me saying that the children would be staying at my mother’s house for that night.
* Can you also explain why **** was kept from the family home for a week when his interview took place the next day (Friday 4th April 2008), and why when he packed his bag to leave the **** on Saturday 5th April (because he wanted to come home to mummy and daddy), when (carer) phoned Social Services and spoke to the duty officer was she told *** was not to leave and that the situation was no concern of hers? In fact I was also told that I was not allowed any contact with **** or **** during this period. After **** had returned home I had to turn **** away from the house one evening as I was told by (come in No 1, you’re sacked) that I was not allowed to see or talk to him, an event that left the whole family extremely upset.
* Request of the copy of court order to remove **** and **** from their home.
* Request for the minutes of the meeting between Social Service and the PPU.
* Request viewing of ****’s video interview.
* An answer to why my mother was viewed as abusive and who made that decision.
* An answer to why **** was not returned home before the 23rd April.
* An answer to why **** was not returned home until the 10th April.
* Where an agreement exists between myself and the (carers)?
* Why the children were not returned to me within the legally stipulated time of 72 hours in the absence of a Court Order?
* Who forged the letter that was supposedly written by son **** and placed before the Court as an exhibit?
* Why is my son placed with unregistered carers in contravention to the Children (Placement) (Jersey) Regulations 2005?
* A number of major complaints have not been addressed or clarified to me after numerous written requests, i.e. how can a minor direct a Court of Law in Jersey to be able to impose bail conditions on an adult?
* Why you have actively conspired with (Advocate) to breach the Data Protection (Jersey) Law 2005 to obtain information about myself which you are not entitled to?




I look forward to a prompt reply inclusive of all the answers to my questions.





Around 6 weeks it took for a short reply.


The reply consisted of:


I'm sorry I can not answer your questions.

But I can tell you:

Your husband was charged and found guilty. ( like i did not know! )

The Data Protection Office are dealing with your complaint. (This is ongoing, but I may post about it soon)


So there it is I have the heads of Departments challenging me to address my complaints via a legal channel, and the legal route saying they can not answer my questions. So where is a person supposed to go from here.......?

Bullies In Cyberspace - my reply, just in case he visits!

From Senator Jim Perchard.

WE live in an internet age. Communicating to people around the world is a matter of a few clicks of the mouse.
However, if you look at this internet age from a different point of view, you will realise that it has in fact bred some illegal and unethical practices.
While some use the internet for gaining information, others use it for destruction of sensitive data, or for demeaning and abusing individuals or organisations. While some use the web as a communication platform, others use it for and derive pleasure from intruding in the internet privacy of individuals and seek enjoyment from cyber-bullying.
Cyber-bullying and internet abuse is a growing and serious concern. The remoteness, even anonymity, provided by the internet encourages many users to behave with a boldness they would not otherwise display in any face-to-face encounters.
It is widely claimed that adult bullies are unable to cope with their own lives and problems and that they are easily intimidated and have strong feelings of jealousy and inadequacy.
They are thought to be desperate to receive attention, which they probably don’t receive at home or in relationships. I have noticed that they continually seek to discredit those in authority, particularly those who are influential, knowledgeable, capable and successful.
Even though many of them will understand when they have behaved wrongly, they still wish to appear as though they are morally superior. Strangely, they insist that others have attacked them and that they are the victims. It seems to me that they seek to lead and manipulate an unsuspecting group of their virtual friends to bandwagon, or gang up on, a target and try to gain attention for themselves by any means possible, usually through humiliating their target.
It is true that occasionally they can appear plausible, by introducing a cocktail of fact and fiction, but I am convinced that cyber-bullies are always vindictive and manipulative liars. They often, in an attempt to justify their behaviour, threaten their target with referral to a higher authority, eg the law, the UK Ministry of Justice, even the European courts, imagining that such authorities would be interested in the detail behind their vindictive tirade of abuse and bullying.
It seems that they are unable to internalise their own behaviours and become angry and unreasonable if someone attempts to point out how they were wrong or how their behaviour was unacceptable.
Cyber-bullies, like all bullies, will eventually prey on those closest to them in order to resist entering into permanent and lasting friendships. This is because they are mentally disturbed people who are incapable of having meaningful relationships. It is symptomatic that they find solace and power alone in their virtual world in front of their computer screens.
We as a society are learning about cyber-bullying at great personal and emotional cost to the many victims and their families. I hope that it will not be long before we establish acceptable boundaries in respect of the rights to freedom of expression, balanced against the rights to security and privacy of the individual.
I have given very careful consideration to the content of this letter, as I know it will provoke a hostile reaction in my direction, from cyber-bullies and internet abusers, those who believe it is their right to publish on the internet defamatory and hostile untruths about others. I for one am prepared to stand up to these bullies. I shall not be intimidated by them.Le Perchoir,Rue de la Vignette,St Martin.
Article posted on 28th February, 2009 - 10.00am



My Reply

Dear Senator Perchard,

As you are the Minister of Health and Social Services, may I respectively suggest that you address the problem of bullying in your own departments before trying to comment on the internet and cast psychological 'fortune teller' readings on users of the internet. Is it correct that there are only white consultants at the hospital here?

I think if you take a look at one of your departments - Social Services - you will realise that it has in fact bred some illegal and unethical practices.
I derive no pleasure from having to resort to 'blogging' to raise awareness of the illegal actions of States Departments. however you have left me no alternative. I have been bullied and intimidated by your department for months now. One conversation went 'well can't your husband find somewhere else to live then we'll give you your son back', I said 'sorry?', they repeated what they had said, I said ' are you joking? you do actually realise that I have 5 other children don't you? You want me to destroy the lives of the children and tell their father to leave home? I can't do that there's 5 children's lives to think about', and then they said 'it's OK the kids will bounce back', and my reply was 'well I'm sorry I can't talk to you anymore' and put the phone down. I had to, I was so upset at the time, just had a baby, and was sick of being intimidated.

I have tried 'face-to-face' boldness, however your employees appear to be trained in the art of deafness and carry on reading from their script, oblivious to what I am saying.

Apart from dealing with your departments, my life is fine thank you. My blog is based on fact, with my opinions and thoughts, and those of others through the comments. You would be amazed at the number of people who have contacted me privately - too scared to even post anonymously - now what does that tell you about Health and Social Services - you know the department that is supposed to help people - your department.


Sorry to dissappoint you but I have no 'psychological defects', (even after all I have been through this last year), obviously because of having loving, permanent relationships with family and friends and generally being a happy well adjusted person.


How can you be threatened with a higher authority such as the law, as you state? Is this your admission that your departments break the law? If you wish you are welcome to come and read my files - I'll show you all the highlights of my year.


We as a society are learning to protect ourselves and help others gain information that has been denied us for too long in Jersey. I hope that it will not be long before we establish truth and justice.


Yours Faithfully,
Oneday

A time for reflection.......

Sometimes you need a little time to think things over, to do nothing, to say nothing .... just reflect on the situation. Believe me it does not get any clearer, there are now so many people who are involved, with not one being able to answer any questions with a direct answer (or infact anything that may be loosly described as an answer). A memorable one they other day was when i was told that given the situation that it was a little odd that i was questioning that they have broken the law.


I have for some time now realised that they have no intention of letting my son return home as I will not play their game and tell them how wonderful they are in kidnapping my children from me, letting me get over the begging for them back stage (yes I'm afraid I'll have to admit to a bit of grovelling which got one home), however I'm not one who can do that forever, and after the damage they have caused us I will never back down now. My son will be nearly old enough to do as he pleases soon and I will wait for that time. I will not have a grossly incompetent department dictacting to my family what we can and can not do.


I wish I could go into a bit more detail at the moment but I feel like I am at a bit of a crossroads at the moment but the long and the short of it is that complaining about a States department (employees) gets you nowhere - you complain up through the correct channels - you get nowhere - you go to the top and work your way down - you get nowhere - you complain in court - you get nowhere. You ask for questions to be answered - you get nowhere. I'm so busy getting nowhere - I'm loosing directions in Jersey!


I now have around 8 files and copies elsewhere full of interesting conflicting information, scattered with outright lies which a few pages on can be disproved by the same people who wrote the lies - police, lawyers, social workers, and other so called professionals - absolutly amazing reading if you are ever bored. It's also becomming quite apparent that you can't work for the States without having some rediculous 'manager of some sort' title. I am amazed at the amount of these types of people in Health and Social Services - no wonder they can not run the department, they must have to go through at least ten line managers to answer something as no-one can make a decision for themselves there - unless of course it is to do with child snatching then they are off in their element as they have to damage a certain amount of children to keep them in life long jobs, and then they can pass them on as damaged adults to the prison or to some psychiatric unit. Where would they all be without these little children......?

Secondary schools fail both children and parents

In primary schools parents are actively encouraged to take an interest in their child's education. The schools often involve parents in outings, special days etc where most teachers do actually spend some time getting to know a family.

Where this changes is when they go to secondary school the door is slammed in your face. Your role as a parent is disregarded and is of low importance to them, they ignore your concerns and then have the cheek to get in touch when they have decided they have had enough.

You know it really makes me wonder who the Director of Education is - perhaps he should start with teaching the teachers to listen to the parents.

I have side lined a bit from the Social Services here but they are inter-linked. The reason for this is as a result of a phonecall made by mistake to me about my kidnapped son - yes they are still holding him to ransom, for almost a year now. I am still waiting for their justification of removing my son from my care - did I tell you that I have done nothing wrong? Most days words can not describe what I think of the situation.

Anyway back to the phonecall, after realising he had the wrong number - I was probably the last person he wanted to speak to at the time - I found out my son had been suspended for a week for amongst other things, 'threatening to stab himself'. So I also got the chance to put him straight on a few things too. Er hello Social Services, does that not tell you he is desparately unhappy with his current situation. You have only yourselves to blame, he should be with his family.

Well I ll end this one with the invitation we received to attend a 'looked after child review' - I beg to differ in the title - perhaps I'll attend once he is actually being looked after and is allowed home.

Child who launches a violent racist attack on a young girl gets...........Rewarded!

You see back in April, we knew something was wrong in the way they were working and that is why we kept a log. I puposely kept it to the main points, not much emotion (Court's do not do emotions - just facts), wrote down times of calls etc. My husband also kept one which I will post soon. An important thing I have also noticed is God help kids at the weekend - because as you see Social Services do not 'do' weekends. Kids and families' problems must end early Friday evening and they are not allowed to resume until Monday morning. That's so the SS can have a well deserved rest after breaking up a family - it's a tough job but someone has to do it - I mean we don't want to promote happy, normal family life, it's simply no good for our career. You can just picture it now - feet up, glass of wine, a lonely existence, hey but what the heck, a nice bonus for their target figures.




Now back to the issue, not one person (except from us) has told my son his behaviour was disgraceful - in fact Social Services paid for him to go to a football club as a treat, now does that not send out mixed messages to an adolescent? So, instead of punishing him, were we supposed to say 'now, I loved the way you aimed your spit directly into her face, also you showed great multi-tasking skills as you hit her and at the same time called her a "f___ing muslim"', you know - the finding of good in everything they do? Well I'm sorry but I can't, I have nothing but disgust for his behaviour, it was inexcusable and not something he sees at home. So where is he learning this type of behaviour? - the only place that it can be is at school - so thank you for my son's new found skills they will get him far in life.




Over the last few months I have noticed that the education system is just as bad at dealing with 'bad behaviour'. No wonder you have a minority of students attacking teachers, they have no discipline or respect. The times have long gone where a teacher was in charge and the pupil's followed and we as a society have allowed this to happen. Why do school's have anti-bullying policies when they fail to adhere to them? When a child is identified as a problem, address the matter immediately, don't look for excuses or come out with statement's such as he's bullying children more vulnerable than himself so that's OK.

My log 10th - 13th April 2008

Thursday 10th April

Told I could have *** for the day. First thing I did was put him in the bath and take him out of the filthy clothes he was in. So much for Social Services!!
During the day *** asked me if he was allowed to stay forever, one can only imagine what nonsense they’ve been filling his head with.

Phone call from *** to ask *** if he wanted to stay to which he replied yes. He passed the phone to me and she told me ’you have one happy boy there’. I beg to differ, the shear arrogance of the social services defies belief.

*** came up around 18.30 and I tried to explain some of the difficulties that we have experienced regarding ***’s behaviour to the extent that we were in the process of seeking professional advice to which she showed absolutely no interest in what so ever.

Friday 11th April

10.05 message from *** to contact her (on home phone number)
10.15 call on mobile, I was told my husband could not have contact with children over the weekend, no reason given.
11.05 *** phoned to say my husband could have unsupervised access to the children over the weekend. Are they trying to play mind games with us?
17.42 phone call to say she was coming up for a quick chat.
*** came up around 18.10 stayed until 19.30 for a ‘chat’.

Saturday 12th April

No contact was made by social services.
2 hour unsupervised access for my husband with *** and *** at my mothers house.



Sunday 13th April

No contact was made by social services.
2 hour unsupervised access for my husband with *** and *** at my mothers house.

An email from Ian Josephs

THE GOLDEN RULES!!

Do PLEASE remember the golden rules: (By all means print this off and keep the copy near at hand if SS approach! Show these rules to your lawyer or social worker to prove that you KNOW your rights!)

REMEMBER THESE EVEN IF YOU FORGET EVERYTHING ELSE I HAVE ADVISED!

1: NEVER contact social services (child protection) for help or advice. Usually you should not report a partner who batters you or even a stranger who sexually assaults your young child, as if you do the SS will as often as not take your children into care (and later for adoption) to "protect them" from risk! If they have your children and you are fighting to get them back, NEVER NEVER tell social workers how you think you are going to defeat them, or what you are going to do next!Remember, without mentioning it to "them", that even if your children are "in care" social workers do not have the legal power to stop your children going to a call box to phone you,from going to any public library and emailing you, or even meeting you for a meal as long as they return "home" to the fosterers afterwards!

Care home girl abused by 25 men in 2 years


Source: Daily Mail Published: 27th August 2006
A 14-year-old girl placed in a council children's home was prostituted to a group of depraved middle-aged men because staff were powerless to stop her going out. The horrific story of 'Becky' is highlighted in a BBC programme presented by Fiona Bruce this week which reveals how she was sexually abused by 25 men over two years - despite being known to social services and having been placed on the Child Protection Register.
Even when she was put in a children's home - six months after her earliest allegations of abuse -staff allowed her to be used as a prostitute for fear their intervention might infringe her human rights. If the "SS" cannot prevent a young girl in their care from working as a prostitute then surely they cannot prevent other young people they "care for" from spending the day with parents if they so choose!Remember also that children of school age have a break so you can call them and speak to them through the railings without trespassing and nobody can stop you except a judge by serving a court injunction on you that will be too late to stop you reminding your children of their real family !

2: Never believe a word "they" say and always insist they put their promises down in writing. Always be pleasant and polite to social workers,but never forget they are your ENEMIES ! Remember that they may deliberately try to provoke you into shouting or violence that they will exaggerate in court leaving you with a criminal record and no children! When they shout at you forget your "pride" and look very hurt saying "why are you being like this to me?" or "I thought you were so nice until now, please don't bully me!" Be very respectful "tongue in cheek", but remember THEY ARE NOT POLICE so never follow their "helpful advice" especially if they say your only chance of getting your children back is to split from a partner, or parent you love and respect! They will try and turn you against each other as the "divide and rule" principle makes sure you are confused and demoralised when you lose your case and your children too! Quite often they arrange deliberately awkward contact times with your children. This can result first in the loss of your job and then as a consequence of that, your accommodation also. Object firmly and forcefully in court to their plans and fight hard to keep your job and your house or appartment.

3: NEVER, NEVER, NEVER sign any documents they present to you, even if they say "you have to!" Social Workers rely on BLUFF. In reality they have NO POWER and no right to threaten you or give you orders of any kind! Only a COURT via an order from a judge can give you orders, and you always have the opportunity to contest those orders in court either before or after they are given to you. No matter what threats,or promises they make, you can be 100% sure that if you get intimidated into signing they will break their word and expect you to keep your's! So, DO NOT SIGN! Answer "yes", "no" or "I don't know" to questions WITHOUT further explanations that could be twisted to be used against you! If the "SS" do not have enough evidence against you do not "cooperate" by supplying them with what they need even if they threaten you.If your enemies run out of ammunition ,do NOT send them over a box of bullets to help them out ! Once the SS have applied for a care order remember their main object is NOT the welfare of the child ,it is to WIN their case against you ! Disregard any threats that you must "do as they tell you ". Be polite and even apologetic when you refuse to obey them !

4: Never, never agree to let your children go into foster care (especially if they say it is TEMPORARY OR VOLUNTARY) Never "agree" the thresholds even if you are advised that this will ensure the return of your children, because if you do you will have admitted neglecting or abusing your child and the only question left will be to decide if you have really repented and are capable of "change"! Usually the answer is no! Sometimes your own lawyer may tell you to agree the thresholds and/or agree to an interim care order otherwise "you will never see your children again! "That is a wicked lie designed to save the lawyers work and to help you LOSE your children! Sometimes lawyers will tell you there is no need for you to give evidence as they will speak for you; that way you may find you have lost your children very quickly without being allowed to say a word, so BEWARE!Most of the "legal aid lawyers" in the family courts are rightly known in the trade as "PROFESSIONAL LOSERS"!! Many of them pretend to work for you when in fact they are really on the side of the Local Authority. Sack your lawyers and represent yourself if they will not let you speak! Never admit to social workers (who are your ENEMIES) that you have been at fault in even the smallest possible way,(they certainly will never admit to you that they were ever at fault!). You must never lie in court, but you should never never admit to any fault on your part unless forced to do so by a direct "yes or no" type question in court. You must never disobey a court order by taking abroad a child already in care, but if you are pregnant and threatened neither a court nor the "SS" can stop you leaving the country before the baby is born! Sweden and Ireland are good choices!

5: When possible refuse to be assessed by so called "experts, "(psychiatrists, therapists, psychologists, counsellors, professionals, and the like) unless your children are returned first as otherwise the process will take place in an artificial atmosphere with you as parents emotionally distressed because your children have been taken. Remember that if the "SS" insist on these assessments their sole purpose is to gather sufficient evidence to help them win their case against you in court!If you talk a lot and do not listen to them they will say you have mental problems or "PERSONALITY DISORDERS",so be "quiet and attentive" during assessments. Try not to answer questions with more than 5 or 6 words (they write down anything unhelpful you may let slip). Try indeed to answer "yes" or "no" whenever possible. NEVER COMPLAIN NEVER EXPLAIN! Complaints are a waste of time and divert you from the more important task of keeping or recovering your children. Never explain or elaborate when questioned as this only gives extra material to those who wish to discredit you. Never make angry personal attacks on anybody or threaten to sue the "SS" or police at a later date, as it just makes YOU sound bad.They may even seize on your resentment as an excuse to diagnose you with PARANOIA ! Your whole tone must be one of "sweetness and light" regretting that your children were mistakenly taken and that THEY (not you) suffered harm and anguish as a result! Your whole case must be that YOUR CHILDREN have suffered harm (not yourself) and that you are taking action for their sake not for your own! If you are accused of "being unable to work with the professionals", reply that you will work 100% with them if they say their objective is to reunite your family by eventually returning your children, but that it is unfair to expect you to work with anyone whose objective declared to the court is to put your children into care or worse still have them adopted!Remember that the SS often "brainwash" children in care by telling children in care that their mother is too ill to care for them or worse still does not love them or want them any more, but when they are adopted they will have a lovely new "for ever mummy and daddy"! Make sure you tell the children that wicked people have stolen them for money and that you will never stop fighting to get them back ! Whisper in their ears or calmly make the statement in spite of horrified supervisors Even children as young as 3 will remember all their lives such a brutal but necessary message. Vital however it is, as it will eventually make a stable adoption impossible to sustain !Your reluctantly adopted children will as a result seek you out and come back to you in the end !

6: Protect yourself against social workers barging uninvited into your home by fitting a small chain inside your front door. This means that if you do not unlatch the chain when you see who is calling that person would have to push the door hard enough to break the chain which would be a "forced entry "and a criminal offence if committed without a document from the court such as a "recovery order" specifically allowing entry using reasonable force. Unless they intend to actually arrest someone or have good reason to believe someone in the house is in danger of severe physical harm, police also would have to have a warrant before breaking the chain. Usually they will not have one and would have to convince a judge that a serious crime had been or was about to be committed before one was granted.

7: If social services request a look at your medical records (probably to try and find something to discredit you) ALWAYS write to any doctor or psychiatrist that has seen you as follows:

"I respectfully request you to keep all my medical notes strictly confidential as I intend to take legal proceedings against social services and any other persons who might obtain my medical details without my express authorisation".

8: Never write a letter to anyone connected to Social Services as you might include something that could damage your case in the family court. Only accept a solicitor if he/she promises to allow you a free hand to speak in court! You should be asked this simple question in the witness box "Have you anything you would like to say to the court?" Without this promise you may be "gagged" and as already explained in Rule 4 you can lose your case without being allowed to say a word!

Represent yourself if you can, but if you really do need the assistance of "professionals" the following contacts can be useful!

USEFUL CONTACTS:
(If your cause is just these professionals really will be on your side not that of social services !)

SOLICITORS:

Sandra Bradley
PRINCIPAL
Bretherton Law
First Floor
Alban Row
27-31 Verulam Road
St Albans
Herts AL3 4DG
DX 6101 St Albans
Tel. 01727 869293
Fax. 01727 853767






William Bache & Co
(best for criminal cases in my opinion)
The Clock Tower
4 Oakridge Office Park
Whaddon
Salisbury
Wiltshire
SP5 3HT
Tel +44 (0)1722 711719
Fax +44 (0)1722 713370
DX 46152 AMESBURY
Email enquiries@williambache.co.uk
or use the form below to contact us direct
BARRISTERS:
Barrister DARREN WATTS
TANFIELD CHAMBERS, 2-5 WARWICK COURT,
LONDON WC1R 5DJ
Tel (0207) 431-5300


Barrister ANDREW SCOTT
described by "The Telegraph" as " the people's champion
http://www.parklaneplowden.co.uk
Parklane Plowden
Tel: 0844 499 5678


Barrister CAROL McMILLAN
Westgate Chambers
64 High Street
Lewes
East Sussex
BN7 1XG
Tel: 01273 480510


Barrister Dr JOHN FOX
Chambers of Ami Feder,
Ground Floor,
Lamb Building,
Temple,
London EC4Y 7AS
DX 1038 (Chancery Lane)
Tel: 020 7797 7788
Fax: 020 7353 0535
e-mail: clerks@lambbuilding.co.uk
Out of hours tel: 07721 339232

PSYCHOLOGIST: Dr LOWENSTEIN tel 02380692621 and website = www.drludwigfredlowenstein.com

Dr Peter Dale (parent assessor)
Email: info@peterdale.co.uk
Phone from UK: (01424) 424504
Phone international: +44 1424 424504
Fax: 08700 941 477