During the weeks that I attempted to work with 'come in No 1 - you're sacked' I must admit she came up with a few classic one liners. 'At least he's got freedom now' she said at the top of my stairs on her way out in front of my mum and aunt who actually couldn't believe what they were hearing.
This comment completely epitomises the differences in how I view a child should be cared for and the views of the social workers I have met to date. Obviously I can only talk about the ones I have met, I am waiting for one that may know the definition of common sense and reasoning and be able to apply it to their working day.
I believe my son should be part of his family, doing the day to day things a family does, trips to the zoo, swimming, the park and beach etc. Yes there are boring bits, but family life is about the mundane side of life as well as fun. I believe children should be taught to look after themselves to a certain extent and by that I mean my 16 year old daughter will occasionally cook a simple dinner, help tidy up, hoover - if they don't get taught things like this and have some sort of responsibilty what hope will they have when they leave home. I have also found out how awful I am in allowing a child to get a bowl of cereal all by themselves at the age of 12 according to come in No 1 you're sacked. I also encourage them to to do their best at school and to be proud of what they achieve how ever small. I have always taught them to be polite and that manners will get them long way in life.
The current living situation is quite honestly wrong for my son. They have placed him with people who spend alot of the time out 'socialising'. Most of the time they do not know where he is, some time he's here but they do not know. I'll explain the background to this situation at a later date, but for now I have expressed my extreme concerns about his safety and well-being whilst in the'care' of these people both verbally and in writing. What I now see is my son turning from a silly little boy into a criminal, all thanks to the social services. Since April he's had more than 30 detentions, been suspended from school, interviewed by police 4 times and we've even had the delight of a trip to the Parish Hall. He's being allowed to roam the streets late at night, once he was seen out at at 01.45am, I've caught him out smoking. He's been drinking alcohol, you name it I think he's probably done it.
I have lost count of the times I have told social workers this and many more things which can be proved - do they care, absolutely not.
I would like to know if it's just us or is it wrong and negligent of people to allow a child to be wondering around the streets in this manner - a trip to the cinema with friends ok - but getting up to no good is very worryingly wrong. I have told the social services that they are not doing a very good job of keeping my son out of harms way. They obviously think they are doing a fantastic job as they will not let him come home. At this rate I ll soon be able to tell you if they have really got rid of the Grand Prix system at Greenfields.
To say I find this frustrating would be an extreme understatement.
'See where uncontrolled freedom takes the child', I have told the SS countless times that he is a child that cannot handle freedom, his behaviour spirals out of control and back in April, I said this along with 'if he's made to stay where he is he will be in Greenfields by Christmas'. Did they listen - no, I'm just his mother what do I know. Actually I know alot more than they do in managing his behaviour.
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